Can You Go "Too Far" With Cocky & Funny?
Post Some Comments Please


***QUESTION***

Mr. DeAngelo,

Your E-book has made my dating life a complete Cinderella
story. The reality that I live in now would just be
unimaginable to myself in the mindset I held over
a year ago. In high school, I was your typical acne
scarred, pasty, out of shape, dungeons and dragons-type
shy loser. When I started college, however, I became
so determined and focused on doing WHATEVER it takes
to completely turn my life around, that things started
to change faster than I could imagine. I started working
out, eating right, and I started listening to Anthony
Robbins and Brian Tracy audio tapes to sort of build
a base on which I could set my goals in life and reprogram
all the garbage and limiting beliefs in my head. Invariably,
I came upon my dating life and decided to do whatever
it make myself as attractive as possible. at 19, I
had never previously kissed a girl or even had the
guts to ask one out.. was always the shy guy. But
I was determined to be the biggest ladies man on campus,
and with your help I've made this happen.

Of all the self-improvement type stuff I have invested
in, I must say that your e-book and monthly series
was definitely the best and most rewarding investment
I have ever made. And coming from my position, this
is a huge compliment. Some people don't know what
they are missing out on by not investing in your program.

Everything in life all comes down to a decision.
If you think that you deserve great women, great relationships,
and a better quality of life overall, then you owe
it to yourself to try out David's E-book, monthly
series, and advanced series. If it doesn't work after-all,
he is giving you the chance to send it back! Hrmm..
maybe I should stop there.. i don't want my competition
to become too fierce.

And now comes a very important question which I
don't think has been addressed at all.. I think I've
come to the point where I've mastered my "inner game"..
My body language is hypnotic and forceful, physically
I'm in the best shape I could possibly be in, my presence
around other people is very charismatic and domineering.
My ease and complete comfortability in being myself
around women is just... I guess magnetic. I'm usually
the life of the party when in a group situation. Of
course, I'm not saying this to brag... All of these
things I have worked on, just like any other skill..
on to the question: do you think there is ever such
a point where a person has to transcend the cocky and
funny approach? I'm beginning to think that with all
I've got going for me that if I lay on C&F too heavily
I just become unapproachable to many women, and I've
noticed now more than ever that EXTREMELY beautiful
women do get very nervous around me especially with
all the other characteristics I've come to master.

If you're ever in Atlanta, drinks are on me Dave.

-D from Atlanta


>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I want to congratulate you from taking
your life from a place where you were 19 years old
and had never kissed a girl... or even asked a girl
out... to where you are taking good care of yourself,
respecting your body, and doing the things you need
to do to get where you want to go in life.

As you know, I get a lot of email from guys who need
advice about situations with women, and it really
amazes me how many of those guys haven't taken the
time to really get the BASICS handled...

...I'm talking about the simple things like keeping
yourself healthy, addressing your psychological issues...
becoming an honest, authentic person... and all that
self-help-ish stuff that most of us think is kind of
dorky...

This stuff is KEY to success with women.

There is a very interesting transformation that takes
place when a guy gets his life together, and begins
living the way he WANTS to life.

As your email communicates clearly, your new-found
confidence is very closely related to your self-improvement
program.

I hope this encourages others to do the same, and
to realize that the rewards are so amazing that it's
worth it.

Let's talk about your question...

You asked if there ever comes a time when you should
"transcend" the Cocky & Funny approach... because women
sometimes become nervous around you, etc.

Let me answer that with a few random points that come
to mind, and then I'll tie it all together with my
general perspective...

1) You have cultivated a strong, confident, dominant
body language and communication that has become what
you might call "INNER COCKY".

As a result, you don't have to mix quite as much "Cocky"
in the actual verbal conversations you're having.

If you project too much of the INNER COCKY, while
at the same time using overly-cocky WORDS as well,
you might come off as INSECURE or even TOO ARROGANT.

Now I don't say things like this very often, because
most guys are so far from being "too cocky" that there's
almost NOTHING they could do to project even ENOUGH
cocky.

2) There is a particular situation that comes up for
guys who have a strong physical presence... or guys
who are naturally very handsome...

If these guys are too cocky with women, many women
get a first impression that is basically "You must
be a jerk".

3) If a woman is getting nervous around you, it does
NOT mean that you're doing something wrong.

Just think about how you used to feel when you were
in the presence of a super-hot woman.

Most guys become EXTREMELY nervous in these types
of situations... so much so that they're actually
IMMOBILIZED... and unable to act.

If a beautiful fashion model wrote in to me and told
me that guys get nervous around her all the time...
and then she asked if she should somehow "tone down"
how she looks so guys wouldn't become nervous, I'd
respond to her and say "Hell no. You WANT guys to
become nervous around you because it separates the
REAL men from the WUSSIES...".

In your case, these women are becoming nervous because
THEY don't know how to handle the situations... which
is not a problem at all for you or for the ATTRACTION
she's feeling.

Look, you are becoming a POWERFUL MAN.

You are beginning to realize and cultivate some of
the natural potential that you've always had inside...
you just didn't know how to get at it before.

Success and power often scare people, because with
success and power come responsibility.

You realize that you're not a victim in your life
anymore, and you begin to see how you can take control
of almost every aspect of your life... and then you
begin to see that people want to FOLLOW your lead
because you have this power...

It is magnetic, as you mentioned.

To answer your question directly, and connect all
of these things together, I think that you need to
realize that Cocky & Funny can be thought of in a
lot of ways...

It's a concept, an idea. It's a technique, with specific
"comebacks" and "lines" for different funny situations.
It's a tool to use for creating Sexual Tension and
Chemistry with women.

But as far as I'm concerned, it's FUN... it's something
that's enjoyable for the man AND the woman.

And for most guys, it's very natural (once you become
comfortable with it).

I mean, if you like to think in terms of things being
"transcended" in life, we could just say that you're
on the path to transcend everything, and the faster
you can transcend your need to be with women, the
better off you are...

...but then again, that might be going a little too
far... lol.

As I read your letter, I thought to myself:

"He needs to learn the Advanced material"...

I think that you need to continue on your self-improvement
track... and I think that you really should be dealing
with a different issue.

Instead of focusing on one technique, I think you need
to be learning more about this particular area of your
life... and I think you need to be focusing on figuring
how what YOU want to do.