Getting Women To "Pick YOU Up"
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*NOTE: The email below is from a guy who was kind
enough to share some GREAT specific examples of things
he says to women, and how he uses the Cocky & Funny
technique to really dial up the chemistry with women.
If you send in a story in the future, remember that
specifics like this are really helpful, and I really
appreciate them... enjoy.


***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

Hey David D!

Who says there's no such thing as magic? When it comes
to women, cocky+funny is PURE 100% magic. It is one
of the major keys to getting her making her comfortable
with you, to getting her number, to getting the date,
kissing, getting laid, EVERYTHING! Your stuff is pure
platinum my man! Looking back on mailbags from over
a year ago, I still shake my head and say: "Man, this
guy is good. I cant wait 'till I am able to pull off
those lines like that!" The lines are so funny and
with cockyness, it just blows them away! Everytime
you do it, you can just FEEL the women responding
to you in a positive way and not trying to ignore
you or get away from you when you act like a wuss-bag.
They are always laughing and smiling and even THEY
tend to get touchy-feely, asking me for MY number
and then calling ME (of course, I always get their
numbers too) or asking me to call them, asking me
when we're going out, and even asking ME for sex.
I could not believe it! And often, this could happen
within minutes or hours of meeting...not weeks, months,
or years like I once thought it took. I suggest all
guys especially the skeptics out there to get your
stuff. It works!

What I LOVE is how you say making it look like as
if a woman is picking YOU up. It sure takes the pressure
off of the situation. It's all in the mindset. You
are not nervous because you know she wants you and
is trying to get you...not the other way around. Then
you act accordingly. Here's just a few of the lines
I use:

"Look, just because you're being sweet to me doesnt
mean I'm going to sleep with you. What? You thought
I was THAT easy? Cummon!"

(with women at work or women working somewhere) "How
can you possibly get any work done when you're flirting
with me all the time? I know I'm a stud and all but
if you lose your job, dont think I'm going to support
you!"

(after seeing a woman) "I know we had fun, but please
dont become a stalker and call me 50 times a day or
else I'll have the cops pay you a visit with a restraining
order in hand!"

(If a woman hints at sex or sometimes I'll bring it
up)

"I dont know if I could have sex with you...what if
you could only last 2 minutes? I dont know if you
can even kiss...I tell you what, I'll THINK about
it" (then I kiss her)

(cocky+funny for a common situation)

Her: "How are you?"

Me: "Well, I've been told I'm pretty damn good!" with
a 'wink'

(If a woman walks past me)

Me: "What are you doing" (or where are you going?)

Her: "I'm going to such and such or I'm doing such
and such"

Me: "You're a lousy liar...<pause>...It's really ok
to admit you were just trying to get a look at me...
and as long as you're not a stalker, I may give you
a chance!"

(If she makes fun of herself) Her: "I'm such a retard"
or "My hair looks awful" or "My lipstick doesnt look
good does it?"

Me: "Well, I didnt want to say anything!" lol "But
I think those guys over there were thinking 'Whats
her problem? She's so clueless!"

OR

Her: "My hair looks bad doesnt it?" (or any other
line where she makes fun of herself)

Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful tone)

I love it! I love it! With this type of communication,
they react SO differently! A lot of times, they will
break down and admit they DO like me! And this keeps
you out of the "lets just be friends" category and
reduces the number of fake numbers and blow-offs you
get from women. It also keeps you from appearing "TOO
NICE". AND I dont have to CHASE them anymore! It's
a wonderful feeling. Now on the other hand, what if
you said:

"I bet you have a boyfriend, right?"

"Hey baby, you're so beautiful!"

"Can I take you out sometime?"

"Oh, baby, there's nothing wrong with you! You're
gorgeous!"

AH! David, just like you say...THIS STUFF IS TERRIBLE!
Wuss, kiss-ass behavior at its best!

It's so lame, so boring, and so wussie, and so blah!
Using cocky+funny, we can have more fun without sounding
like a loser plus women respond 1,000,000% times better
with cocky+funny. Probably only 1-2% of the male population
know what cocky+funny is and probably half of those
do it without realizing it. This type of communication
is DIFFERENT from what MOST guys do which makes you
stand out! But it's a lot like water. For water (H20),
you need 2 hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom. If not
then you get some other element you arent looking for.
You have to have the right mixture of cocky AND funny
or else it doesnt work as well (although sheer cockyness
with mild humor CAN work to a degree).

Now, I have a question and observation that is important
to me, David. SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny
response, they will say "Oh whatever!" or roll their
eyes or say you're mean, get mad, or something like
that and walk away. This happens not often but on
rare occasions. These women are probably uptight anyways
and not worth getting know. When they say "whatever"
or "You're so mean" and they're laughing or smiling,
and they still keep talking to me, then I know it's
working. Also, when you say something like: "...Oh
quit lying, you were just walking near me because you
want me" and they say "No, I dont want you" or "No
I wasnt, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _" in a semi-serious
tone, how do you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny
going? In other words, what do you do when they act
as if they ARENT picking you up?

Thanks a million Dave...you've changed my life forever...
seriously.

GT from Nashville, Tennessee


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, so let's talk about the great comments that you've
shared, and then I'll address your question...

I was amazed when I first realized that you could
actually turn the tables around, pretend that you're
trying to "resist her advances", and make fun of her
for trying to "put the moves on you"... and wind up
having the woman you're talking to actually start
feeling attracted to you as a result.

It really is amazing.

Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this approach
and think "Yea, right. There's no way that just pretending
that a woman is pursuing you will MAKE her pursue
you"...

But this isn't just any old common way of "pretending".

What you're doing here is a very special, Cocky &
Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.

I'm sure you've watched the Discovery Channel, and
seen animals "play fighting". It's common among young
animals in particular.

Now, how do animals know that it's only "play", as
opposed to "real" fighting?

I mean, have you ever seen the way some animals, like
lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and bite each other?

It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.

But it's not... it's play.

Well there's a very similar thing that happens when
you flirt with a woman using the Cocky & Funny technique...
and when you use this further to pretend that she's
trying to "pick you up" and you're "resisting her
advances".

You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.

You have to be a little "overly suspicious" with your
tone.

You have to act just a little too serious and offended.

These little cues, along with a good sense of humor
and timing are the hints and triggers that make a
woman instantly switch into "Oh, this is play" mode,
instead of behaving as if you're a loser who has no
imagination.

There are some other key benefits, as you mentioned
above, as well when you're using this approach.

One is that you don't come across as nervous or intimidated.
The fact that you're turning the tables around, having
fun, and acting like you're something special sends
the message that you're totally cool, calm, and comfortable
in your own skin... and, in fact, you're SO comfortable
that you're going to go immediately to "play" mode.

Another is that it gives you a "character role" to
play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This is
handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss mode
when they start talking to an attractive woman.

Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways to end
the interaction...

You can say:

"OK, well I'm not going to give you my number, but
you can write down your email for me, and maybe I'll
get back to you sometime..." etc.

It even makes taking things to the next level easy
and charming, because you're "resisting forward".

A quick personal story:

I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon with
a friend, and the waitress approached us to get our
order.

She walked over and said something like "Hi, can I
get you something to drink?" etc.

I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking to
my friend.

Then, as she finished asking the question, I turned
to her with a surprised and "fake offended" look on
my face, and said "Oh, that's OK, I was just TALKING"
(as if she had interrupted me).

She opened her mouth with the "Oh, no you didn't!
I can't believe you just said that" look.

I shook my head at her.

Then my friend looked at her and said "Wow, you're
very forward. Next thing she's going to be asking
for your phone number".

I shook my head at her again, and rolled my eyes.

We gave her the drink order, and she went away.

She came back a few minutes later to tell me that
my drink was going to be delayed, because they were
making some kind of change in the kitchen.

Of course, I threw up my hands in despair, rolled
my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if she was disappointing
me horribly).

She laughed and said "Hey, you'd better watch out,
I might have to ask you for your phone number"...

THAT FAST.

We had talked for a grand total of about a minute,
and she was already joking around about asking me
for my number.

Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a cute
one, at that). She works in an environment where hundreds
of guys try to pick up on her, one after the other...

Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing happens
all the time when I interact with waitresses, etc.
I've found that it's no harder to get a waitress to
give you her email/number than it is to get any other
girl's info, by the way.

What's the secret?

Being playful, fun, different, Cocky & Funny, and
not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her 100 times
a day and tell her how pretty she is.

Now I'd like to address your question...

Here it is again:

"...SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny response,
they will say "Oh whatever!" or roll their eyes or
say you're mean, get mad, or something like that and
walk away. This happens not often but on rare occasions.
These women are probably uptight anyways and not worth
getting know. When they say "whatever" or "You're so
mean" and they're laughing or smiling, and they still
keep talking to me, then I know it's working. Also,
when you say something like: "...Oh quit lying, you
were just walking near me because you want me" and
they say "No, I dont want you" or "No I wasnt, I was
just doing _ _ _ _ _" in a semi-serious tone, how do
you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny going?
In other words, what do you do when they act as if
they ARENT picking you up?..."


What I'm about to tell you is sometimes hard for guys
to accept, so get ready.

SOME PEOPLE DON'T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.

No, really.

My guess is that something like 60%-80% of the population
just plain aren't very interesting or fun to talk
to.

Some people are actually ARROGANT about their lack
of a sense of humor.

These are my personal favorites.

I remember meeting a girl at a bar a couple of years
ago.

I was in Hollywood, CA at a fancy bar, and she was
one of these "I'm a beautiful actress, and I know
it" types.

I was ordering a drink, and she bumped into me.

I turned and said "Don't touch me!"

She just looked at me with a "You're a jerk" look,
and leaned away from me.

I smiled at her, and said "It was a joke, it's OK"
(with kind of a slightly sarcastic "you didn't get
it" tone of voice).

She said something like "Well, it wasn't funny. You
seem like an arrogant jerk".

LOL!

I couldn't help myself... I burst into laughter.

She, of course, got even more annoyed.

Now, most guys would have gotten all upset, thought
that they must have done something majorly wrong,
and tried to apologize and get the woman to like them.

I immediately recognized this girl as a person who
just plain doesn't have a sharp sense of humor, and
who is probably a HUGE pain in the ass to deal with
in real life, and laughed at her.

You'll notice that a lot of guys write in to the Mailbags
with questions like "I'm dating four women right now,
and they're all wonderful, but there's this ONE girl
that I just can't get... how do I make the one that
isn't interested LIKE me?"

This is a curious thing.

We humans always want the approval of the person who
doesn't want to give it to us.

Instead of just walking away and saying "your loss",
we often chase after them, begging and pleading for
their approval... and thinking that we must have done
something wrong.

Remember, some people actually ENJOY making other
people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY rejecting
men. It gives them a feeling of power.

There are MANY women who will spend all week shopping,
two hours putting on their clothing and makeup (and
doing their hair), just to go out and get attention
from men... so they can reject those men, and complain
to their friends about what "losers" and "pigs" men
are, and how they hate it when men look at them like
a "piece of meat".

Go figure.

Let me give you a little "tough love".

Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and getting
this area of your life handled is realizing that not
all women are nice people, and not letting those that
aren't nice AFFECT YOU.

You can reach a point in your life where your attitude
become "I do not give anyone permission to take my
joy, happiness, and good mood from me".

When you get to this point, then IT DOESN'T MATTER
if a woman doesn't respond positively to your approach.

It doesn't matter if she rejects you.

It doesn't matter if she doesn't have a sense of humor.

None of this matters when you don't give anyone permission
to TAKE YOUR JOY FROM YOU.

My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it off.
Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and detach from
these types of situations, and NOT let them affect
you.

The "numbers game" goes both ways.

If you start meeting a lot of women, you will, by
nature of meeting a LOT of women, meet quite a few
that don't have a sense of humor, aren't friendly,
aren't available, etc.

You need to learn the skill of keeping your power
and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to someone
you don't even know.

Make a decision right now that your joy is your own,
and that you'll never allow another person to take
it from you.

Dude, someone give me a hug.

OK... on a more serious note...

If you've been reading my newsletters for awhile,
or you've had a chance to download a copy of my eBook
or check out my Advanced Series, then you know that
I really believe it's important to get your "inner
game" handled.

By "inner game", I mean things like your emotions,
your outlook on life, your "mental map" of how things
work between men and women, etc.

It took me a long time, and a lot of trial and error
to find the things that REALLY work best when it comes
to making women feel that powerful emotion called
ATTRACTION.

And one of the most important things that I realized
is that if you don't get your INNER GAME together,
and learn how to THINK about women and dating, all
the techniques in the world aren't going to help you
very much.

In my Advanced Series, I spend several HOURS going
over everything from the evolution of human mating
to the beliefs and attitudes of guys who are "naturally"
good with women.

I think it's important to change the way you THINK
as you change the way you BEHAVE.

Women use little clues to figure out if you're the
"real deal" or if you're just "faking it".

If you don't BELIEVE in what you're doing, then you're
going to come across as a fake. You'll feel like you're
being "manipulative"... and like a fraud.

When you UNDERSTAND what is happening, how and why
women act the way they do, and how to make women feel
ATTRACTION, then your behaviors feel "right" and they
come across as AUTHENTIC... because they ARE.