How To Act Around A Woman You Like
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HOW TO ACT AROUND A WOMAN YOU LIKE...

I get a lot of questions from guys asking all kind
of questions about how to behave around women.

In fact, this might be one of the areas that guys
want to know about the most.

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past
year or so about the concept of being "cool".

In other words, I've been watching people (myself
included) to see if I could figure out why some people
are considered "cool" wile some are considered "uncool"...
and, more importantly, how to use this idea to have
more success with women.

So what is a "cool guy"?

And what is it about a guy who's "cool" that makes
women feel more attracted to him than an "uncool" guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about
guys I've known who were UN-cool.

One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with people.
He would start arguments about anything, and always
take the opposite perspective on every topic. He did
this with women all the time too. I think he felt
like he was coming across as smart when he argued.
Guess what? Women hated it, and ran as soon as he
started in. His guy friends hated it too, by the way.
He was UN-cool, because his insecurity was so strong,
that he had to argue to get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice things
and favors for women he likes. As soon as he meets
a woman he likes, he tries to find something he can
do for her. Of course, he then gets upset when the
woman doesn't return the feelings of affection... and
he acts upset and "taken advantage of". This, of course,
makes women run away. As you can probably guess, he's
trying to manipulate women with favors. And women resent
him for it. Women don't think he's cool, and they avoid
him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how beautiful
they are, buy them drinks and dinners, and pursue
them with the "You're the greatest thing in the world,
and I'm going to chase you around and try to buy your
attention". And even though he's doing a lot of "nice"
things for the women he's interested in, he can't keep
one around for more than a date or two. Even his guy
friends think that he needs to calm down and act more
"cool" in general.

Now, all three of the guys I've mentioned above
have different problems... but the way I see it, they're
all strangely related.

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I
know who are "cool".

One guy I know always has girls around him. In
fact, I don't think I've ever seen him WITHOUT at
least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four
girls with him... and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He
always makes fun of the girls, teases them, and treats
them like good friends who he's comfortable enough
to bust on. He's not rich, he doesn't buy things for
women, and he doesn't kiss up to them. He DOES, on
the other hand, make it his business to know where the
"cool" places are in town, where to go out, and who
to call for the "inside track" on where the hot spots
are. Then he shows up at the door to these hot spots
with five women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him
as a "cool" guy.

I have another friend that is really amazing with
women. But he does something that's rather unusual
when he's around women. He kind of IGNORES them when
he first meets them. If he's out with friends, and
one of them introduces a female friend, he'll shake
her hand and say "hi", then TURN AWAY and go back
to whatever he was doing. Somehow, the women that
are around him always want to talk to HIM. And all
the guys he knows think of him as one of the coolest
guys around.

Finally, I have one friend who literally says
things to women like "You probably wouldn't like me.
I don't really have relationships with women. Our
relationship will probably go no further than the
physical..." If you've seen my Advanced DVD Program,
you probably remember him saying these exact words
when I'm interviewing him. He's so calm and laid
back around women that they have to often pursue
HIM... and it happens a lot. He's blunt, direct,
and honest about whatever is on his mind. He doesn't
chase women, buy them things, or smother them with
compliments... and yet, they love him. And he has
a crew of guy friends who all love him and think he's
one of the "coolest" guys in the world.

So what is it that separates the "cool" guys from
the "uncool" guys? What is "cool"?

What is it that makes a few rare people the kind
of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?

What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other
people, and makes women run away?

And what is it about this element that I'm calling
"cool" that makes guys who have it attract more women
than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL

I personally think that being "cool" comes down
to:

1) Being independent

2) Being indifferent

3) Being funny

4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I want
to mention something...

Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help
you meet more women, or give you advice to get past
limiting beliefs, etc.

I've realized recently that there are a few BASIC,
FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need to really
"get" about interacting with other people before we
start trying to learn advanced stuff, like how to
approach and meet women. If you don't have some of
the basic stuff handled, all the fancy techniques in
the world won't fix your problem.

So stick with me here, this is important stuff.

OK, so let's talk about the four components that
I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of "dependent".

When you act "dependent", you lean on others, you
look to them for approval, you ask what they think
before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay
physically close to them, and your feelings tend to
depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do
things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don't
ask others what they think - instead you decide yourself,
you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile
when you're out, and your feelings are controlled by
what YOU think, not what others think.

A "dependent" person will go into a bar with friends,
stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else
is drinking before they order, get upset easily about
things that others say, and constantly be looking for
attention and approval in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will
go into a bar with friends and be more likely to...
walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who's
there - and feel fine about striking up a conversation
and leaving their friends for awhile... They'll order
a drink if they want, or water if they want - and not
care what everyone else is drinking... They'll be cool
and calm no matter what happens - even if others are
getting upset around them... And, most importantly,
they aren't looking to others for attention and approval.
They're doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever
happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes
of things. They're constantly worrying about what's
going to happen... and talking about the future in
a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what other
people think of them, and they're worrying about what
they should do so other people like them. Unfortunately,
this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just
goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome
of whatever situation they're in.

If it's a man, and he's approaching a woman, he
will be OK with whatever happens. If she's nice to
him, great. If she's uptight, no problem. If she's
rich, famous, and beautiful... and starts coming on
to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation,
it makes you act all kinds of freaky. You pause, act
nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure...
and any of 100 other unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you're INDIFFERENT to the
outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially when it
comes to women and dating. Indifference is the
ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.

It's a complete mystery why we find things "funny"
and why we "laugh".

Crying because someone died makes some logical
sense. It's a bad thing, and crying expresses a
negative emotion.

But when you see a dog run into a window because
he doesn't see it... and he gets a confused look on
his face, you LAUGH. What's with that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you're
funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They
laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.

If you're not naturally funny, it's a great skill
to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever
it takes to learn how to be funny.

Most of the "coolest" guys I know are wickedly
funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion...
but they "get it"... and when they do make a joke,
it's DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the
people I know who are "UN-cool" are not very adjusted
socially.

They lack a certain something in the "social skills"
department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially
women) that they don't know how to relate very well
to other people. They just never learned how to make
others feel comfortable around them.

If you've every known an accountant or computer
programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally
boring, you know what I mean.

If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable
when they're around you, then you also know where
I'm coming from on this.

I can't teach you how to make people feel comfortable
around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn
how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING
ATTENTION to what's going on around you.

Watch how others dress, hold themselves, walk,
and talk. Pay attention to little details... like
saying "What's up?" when you meet someone new, instead
of "Hello, pleased to meet you" and such.

...now, is this all there is to being "cool"?

Of course not.

But it's a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place where
other people want to be around you just because they
enjoy your company, you'll find that taking things
to the next level with women will be about 10 times
easier.

I've had this conversation with MANY of the guys
I know who are successful with women, and they all
basically say the same thing... you have to learn
how to be "cool" and make others (women) feel comfortable
just being in the same room with you. And if you're
"cool", this happens almost instantly. If you're not
"cool", then you're going to have a hard time making
ANYONE feel comfortable with you... never mind having
a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I've also realized that a lot of the materials
that I teach in my eBook and Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD Program are aimed at this EXACT topic.

Even though I don't talk very much about this
concept (I will in the future, though), you'll notice
that many of the techniques you'll learn from my
materials will help you in a lot of areas of your
life... not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I've learned about
how to be more successful with women and dating, I've
ALSO become more successful at things like being
invited to "exclusive" parties, having famous and
successful people pursue me as a friend, and just
generally being invited into more "exclusive" social
circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of
"cool" or influential people are very careful about
who they "bring along" to gatherings with friends.

The LAST thing someone "cool" needs in their life
is an "UN-cool" person making a jackass of themselves
in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being "cool", you start
to attract other cool people. And those people will
see that you're not insecure, emotionally unstable,
clingy, and such. They'll see that you know how to
handle yourself with other people (and with women),
and they'll start introducing you to other cool
people (and women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite
a whole series of letters to me about how learning
these concepts has done exactly what I'm talking
about for various guys (and I want to hear about it,
by the way, so make sure you write in).

Want more great ideas on how to be "cool", and
how to meet and date more women? I thought so...

It took me a long time to figure out how to be
"cool" around women... and how to make women feel
that powerful physical and emotional response called
ATTRACTION...

I can't tell you how much I wish I would have had
what I teach when I was younger. It's taken me literally
YEARS to put all the pieces together, and I invite
you to take advantage of the time, effort, energy,
and money I've invested to discover, refine, and organize
all of the step-by-step techniques I've put together...