Getting Past Resistance With Women
POst some COmments or Sucessful Stories please



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Your material is awesome. I have met more women in
4 weeks with your material than in the previous 4
years of dating! I have, however, come across a problem
which requires your expertise. I can easily obtain
a woman's email and during the follow up email get
their number. However, I get their voice mail often
when I call them up. What is your feeling about leaving
a message with them? I mean if you call several times
(and they have caller I.D.) and don't leave a message
they will think you are some kind of weirdo. For example
I got this hot woman's email but whenever I call her
(3 times in the past week) I get her answering machine.
Should I leave a cocky/funny message on the third
attempt or should I email her back or just keep calling
until I get in touch with her?

Thanks for your help,

D. in Alabama


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to answer your question in two different
ways... one is the direct answer, and one is the "bigger
picture" answer...

First, the bigger picture answer:

Most problems like this one boil down to a rather
simple formula:

NOT ENOUGH PROSPECTS = TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE

TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE = MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY

MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY = MISSING OTHER OPPORTUNITIES

Are you with me here?

If you were out getting more emails and numbers every
day instead of worrying about this one, you would
have called her the first time and said "Hey, it's
me. Call me, here's my number..."

A few days later you would have probably emailed and
said "Hey, you'd better call me, because my week is
filling up fast..."

Finally, you would have forgotten about her because
you got too busy seeing other women.

When you become too concerned with one woman, you
do things like CALLING HER THREE TIMES IN A WEEK...
without her calling you back.

What's the message you're sending to her?

Of course... "I tolerate and even pursue women who
don't call me back."

That's not what you want to communicate, man.

By not leaving messages, you also add the charming
TWIST to the overall message of "I might be a stalker,
because I don't leave messages."

So get out there and meet more women! That's the bottom
line.

And now, for the direct answer...

Call the first time, and if you get voicemail, say
"Hey, it's [your name here], call me. My number is..."

If she doesn't call you, then send her an email that
says: "What, trying to play hard to get already? Call
me."

If she doesn't call you, then YOU have to decide what
to do.

WHATEVER you do, don't call or email her again for
awhile. Give it a week or two if she isn't responding
to you.

Then, when you do contact her again, make sure she
gets the hint that you're busy, that you're dating
other women, and that you're not impressed with the
fact that she's a flake.



***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

Love your material. I have gone ten years looking
for material on dating and your knowledge is second
to none. I have learned tremendously from your ebook
and emails. I do have a question though. I had met
a hottie the other night and using C & F she was all
over me, making out with me in a bar. However when
i got her back to my place and we continued "making
out" she kept saying "I usually don't do this" and
"what are you thinking (about us hooking up so quickly)?"
Needless to say I continued forward with my manly
duties, but I was wondering 1) why was she asking
these questions and 2) what is a good way to respond
to such questions in the future.

Your new follower,

A in Vermont


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here, let me ask YOU something...

What would YOU do if you were a woman who:

1) Had a self image that didn't include "hooking up"
with a guy the first night you meet him.

2) A STRONG sexual attraction to a guy that you just
met, and you want to hook up with him the night you
met him?

Of course...

You'd say things like "I'm not this kind of girl"
and "I don't usually do this" and "What do you think
about this?" etc. etc. etc....

You've asked me what I think of this, and how to respond
to it when it happens.

First, I think it's normal, and natural for a woman
to behave this way. Get used to it.

Second, as far as responding to this kind of thing...

I have a couple of thoughts for you.

1) Don't Expect Anything

I think that guys get their hopes up when a woman
"comes home" with them... and they get more and more
excited about the possibility of "hooking up"... to
the point where they're UPSET if it DOESN'T happen.

When you put this much importance on something, you
set yourself up for failure... and often do things
to CAUSE failure. When you WANT something, it costs
more. Right?

So don't EXPECT anything. Be OK with whatever happens.
Lean back. Chill. Be cool.

2) Make Sure She Knows

The next step is to let the woman you're with KNOW
that whatever happens is cool.

Don't PUSH.

When you start using all the different concepts and
techniques that you've learned together... and you
start to smoothly transition from one step to the next...
you will start to see women responding VERY powerfully.

But part of this powerful response will USUALLY be
some sort of "resistance".

WHY?

Because women aren't used to meeting men who KNOW
all this stuff!

They're not used to being swept away by the powerful
sexual emotions that you're triggering with your communication,
body language, and touch.

I'm not kidding here.

Don't be surprised when some women get so freaked
out that they literally run out the door or start
shaking with nervousness.

Women just aren't used to men who know how to make
them feel things this powerfully!

Now, if a woman says "I don't know if this is a good
idea, I don't usually do things like this with a guy
I've just met"... you basically have a couple of choices.

You can PUSH, in which case you'll usually meet with
resistance... or you can PULL BACK, then let things
start again slowly... which will make it far more
likely that things will continue to the next level.

The real key here is walking into every situation
with a woman NOT EXPECTING anything... or being overly
concerned with the outcome.

Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of thing
from women... it's normal and natural.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I got your e-book a few months ago thinking
it would be a big joke. But I have spent $40 on a
bad date so figured I would take the gamble and I
am so glad!

Before I read your material I was the total wuss boy,
I was just way too nice and got no respect. Now I
have confidence! It didn't take long to use C&F, posture,
etc, but what I noticed is that when I SLOWED DOWN,
women started looking. Walk slow across the room,
using deliberate movements, shoulders back, head high,
and you will just FEEL more confident, and women pick
up on that. Easy to get emails and numbers when they
feel your confidence!

Thanks for the tips. I want to say that your "kiss
test" has worked 100% with my last 5 dates! Playing
with her hair and looking her in the eyes while relaxing
on the couch has gotten me lots of kisses, then I
BACK OFF for a few minutes and it drives them crazy!
I just keep thinking GO SLOW! I am a good looking guy,
but the problem I have had with women is the "friend"
category.

Now after 4 months I have a girlfriend that can't
get enough, and I can't thank you enough. I am never
going to be the wuss again! BTW- I did get her flowers,
I told her I made the arrangement myself and the flowers
were exotics as I made up names and places they were
each from, she just laughed so hard it broke all 'romantic'
tension and I didn't need a barf bag.

CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sweeeeeeet!

A quick thought...

It is AMAZING how powerful the idea of "backing off"
is after you've kissed a woman, etc.

Moving two steps forward, one step back is one of
the easiest and strongest way to amplify attraction.

Good job.



***QUESTION***

Mr. DeAngleo,

I have your e-book Double Your Dating and it's just
plain excellent. You have a keen insight into the
communication necessary to gain the respect and admiration
of da ladies. And you're a quick study of the human
condition called "a relationship". I look forward
to studying your audio program.

Even though your stuff is great, it seems to skew
towards younger, never married girls. Am I right that
an older women who have been around the block with
kids, would be more worldly and have more of a personal
agenda? Or that these women are the "new and improved
gold diggers"? I'm in my late forties and am realistic
to the age bracket I'm going to encounter and date.
Sure I look great and athletic, but the funny and
cocky attitude would seem to only work with young
girls rather than pre-married model.

Are guys my age stuck with working just the personals
and local church festivals? I mean no matter how suave,
cool, cocky, and funny I am, aren't I always fighting
the age different thing? That a man in his forties,
has to use the power, fame and money, rather than
personality? Is the cocky, funny personality going
to work with older women? We're not all James Bond's
you know.

I look forward to your answers because you really
are the expert on this topic. And whether you'd like
to admit or not, you'll be my age sometime soon, and
then what will you do? Man, that's something to think
about!

Keep up the great work,

LP Wisconsin


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'd like to give you some long, detailed, profound
answer to this question, but I just have to say:

WOMEN OF ALL AGES LOVE THIS STUFF.

My stuff doesn't skew towards ANY types of women.

I flirt with every woman I meet... of every age. They
all love it.

And I get emails from guys of all ages who use this
stuff to meet women of all ages.

Try it... you'll like it.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

All I can say is wow! Thanks a lot, your Newsletters
couldn't have came at a better time! It's the first
message I read over, hell I even read it 3 times!
And now canceling something tonight so I can read over
your book and past letters, the information is truly
amazing, I was shocked at how well this book was
written. And you really helped me with remembering
how great the gift of missing you works, would have
f***ed that up 2nite!

Last night I went out with 3 beautiful women and because
my Escalade is at a friends (he is installing a few
screens for me, can't wait!) I invited a male friend
to come along that the girls have meet before to drive,
When they entered the car they said how much they missed
me, the gift of missing you is SO powerful I can't
explain it enough. Then at the end they all said "thanks
for spending time with us", I was thinking, aww I feel
so special! Said a c/f comment and got a few hugs/kisses
goodnight. And my friend didn't even get a "thank you".
He drove around and spent over $100 paying for us to
do stuff(total wuss, husband material, he's 18 so that's
not good)! I paid nothing and received great benefits
because of you, where do I send the cash donations!?

I suggest you all look over the materials you have,
or purchase the e-book now if you have not already.
Look, your wasting lots of time, money, and lots of
great opportunity's to get to know wonderful women
by not listening to this stuff. I can't even put
together words on how well this stuff works, Dave
does a GREAT job teaching!

Question: This one girl with a 9.5-10 personality
and great looks has this sparkle in her eyes that
I really LOVE. How can I mention it in a non-pussy
way? Bust on her about it (making fun of it)? But
I like it! hmm

-JB,
Chicago IL, where sheep are only in zoo's! ;)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sheep in zoos? Dude, what are you doing talking about
where the sheep in YOUR town are? It makes me nervous
when men know exactly where the local sheep hang out
is.

Now, to answer your question...

Why is it that men feel such STRONG urges to compliment
women early on? I don't know what's with us.

I have to say, I know EXACTLY how you're feeling,
because I have to watch this myself... it's like we
come pre-wired with a "nice guy compliment" mechanism.

Well TURN IT OFF for the first 10 dates or so, OK?

Look at those beautiful eyes, and when she says "What?
What are you looking at?" say "Oh, just my reflection
in your eyes...".



***QUESTION***

Hey David:

I have a question that I'm not sure you've addressed
in your book. Have you ever come across a situation
where you're working on a girl and her construction
worker boyfriend shows up ready to pound you one?
Any idea on how to handle that situation?

I've been there and lets just say that I'm damn lucky
my front teeth don't look like some of the hidden back
ones! In fact, it's instilled an added fear into me
that has made it really hard to approach women for
the last 13 years. Some guys are crazy and if they
see another guy making his girlfriend all excited,
it could be bad news.

M


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I have a great response for this...

Walk away.

What did you expect me to say? Beat him up?

I know that secretly a lot of guys have a fear of
the husband or boyfriend showing up and becoming violent.

Does it happen?

Sure.

How often?

I don't know... but I can tell you that I've never
heard of it happening to a guy for just talking to
a girl... and I know a LOT of guys that meet a LOT
of women.

Just walk away.

Risk is a part of life, and you have to accept it
if you want to enjoy unusual levels of success.



***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

Success Story

Many guys write in and tell you about their success
with this specific girl, or that specific girl etc.
Those are great stories and encouraging to the rest
of us. My success story is a little different.

Today I was browsing my emails and something happened
that struck me. I have been corresponding with this
really attractive girl who I met through the personals.
In her first email to me (a response to my initial
contact) she asked when/where we could meet. In her
third, which I read this morning, she gave me her
phone number and asked me to call her 'really soon'.
I will call this evening.

I thought about this in context of my current situation:
last night I had a 3rd date with a really cute Japanese
girl who hardly speaks english and who I met at a
bar some time ago, the night before I had a first
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(who asked me, before I brought it up, when we can
meet again), and the night before that I was at a
girls place making dinner for her, almost having a
food-fight, laughing and joking and poking fun of
her family pictures in her apartment (on our 3rd date).
I could go on but won't.

The point I'm trying to make is that my success story
isn't about any of the above successes. You see,
when I read the email this morning which had a phone
number and a request to call 'really soon', my reaction
was pretty casual. And it struck me that my reaction
would have been totally different 1 year ago. I would
have been so surprised and happy and excited. And I
would have told myself 'wow, this girl actually wants
to meet, ok now, don't screw this up...blah blah etc
etc'

The success story I'm talking about is ME. My reaction
to the email sums it up; I'm not even surprised when
I get that kind of email any more. Pleased, but not
surprised.

I'm starting to REALLY understand the difference between
the INNER and OUTER game. It's not dissimilar to the
difference between success with a single woman, and
my own success in ME and my situation. Plug for Dave:
I got the ebook about 1 year ago and I've been following
the newsletters. I've been slowly shedding the inner
wussy and it's thanks to your teachings. I can only
imagine what kind of success I might have if I actually
ponied up for the CD series.

Question

I mentioned above that I am dating a really cute Japanese
girl. She speaks English, but not much (certainly
more than I speak Japanese!). I got her email at a
bar and we've been out 3 times. I can sense that
she likes me, and I think things are proceeding well.
In fact, she's coming to my appartment tomorrow to
cook Japanese dinner for me. My question is this:
how can I tease her when she doesn't understand anything
but the simplest of English. I actually told her what
'tease' means and then tried some examples to demonstrate.
This worked to some degree, but I'm feeling a little
held back.

Thanks for any insight you can offer.

S. in Vancouver


>>>MY COMMENTS:

About your "inner" success...

I can remember a moment a couple of years ago when
I realized that the inner insecurity that I used to
carry around with me was GONE.

It's hard to explain an emotional feeling, but it
was as if there had previously been a certain insecurity
that was always with me... that affected every part
of my life...but then, without me realizing it was
going... it was gone.

It's a great feeling, isn't it?

As far as your situation with your Japanese girl goes...

I have a friend who is great with women who likes
to date Japanese women, and he tells me that they
are different because of their culture... and that
they are often more reserved.

I've never thought of TEACHING a woman what teasing
means, but it's a great idea!

I personally think that it's difficult to communicate
in a subtle way when there is a language barrier...
but that's just my take. If you can figure this one
out, write in and share the wisdom!


***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Dave,

I ended up on your newsletter mailing list just the
same way I always ended up in boys P.E., I have one
of those names that gets confused as being male.
At first, I found your letters just funny and a bit
odd... until I started seeing that you are absolutely
right. The qualities you explore and recommend in
your stuff is exactly what I am attracted to. Wow,
what an eye opener. Wussies are a waste of time. Give
me a C & F real man anytime.

By the way, I find it very attractive in you too!
Kisses!

TM,
Dallas,TX


>>>MY COMMENTS:

NOTE TO WOMEN FANS...

SEND PICTURES!

If you want to pucker, so I can get an idea of what
the "kisses" look like, feel free. Love it.



***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

I've been enjoying your emails in the last few months.
You've offered some valuable advice on how to deal
with people. But, I am sorry to say I'm finding your
advice less valuable.

You are focusing on being cocky and funny with people.
But you are forgettign one thing. You have to make sure
you make people feel good. Otherwise, they will be
like - fu** you, I don't to talk to you - you are a
piece of sh**. I'm just trying to help you get on the
right track, man. Nothing personal.

In a previous Newsletter you are encouraging someone's
comment who tells a complete stranger that their dress
is made of a shower curtain. Did you ever stop to
think that it does not make someone feel good? I mean
if someone directed a rude comment like that to me -
I'd be like fu** you - you are a piece of sh** - I don't
want to talk to you. Or, I would imagine a girl would
think something like - Why are you talking to me? Go
eat sh**. I don't want to talk to you.

I would say something like - 'Wow! That's nice shoes!'
(or Wow! That's a nice hat!) Make a compliment when
you meet a stranger - that helps. Instead of making
them feel like a piece of sh**. Take your fu**ing
'cockiness' in the whole new direction MON! You are
going in the wrong direction. I want you to stop before
you lose everybody on your mail list MON!!!

You've gone a little overboard on that, mon. Come on,
admit it. I think you will probably make some cocky
and funny comment about that. But even then, please
do not go overboard with cocky because there is a border
line between cocky and rude. And I take it, you who
study human personality, should know where that border
line lies.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, MON...

Do me a quick favor. Go learn how to attract women,
then write me an email.

You sound like a "Couch Based Expert". In other words,
I'll bet you couldn't get a woman's phone number if
you were giving away CASH PRIZES... OK?

Now, to be fair, from time to time I do get an email
from someone who says "It sounds to me like you're
suggesting to men that they act like jerks", etc.

What does this tell me?

The most IMPORTANT thing it tells me is that you haven't
read my book or listened to my Advanced Series...
and you just don't get it.

This isn't about making women feel BAD, it's about
making them feel GOOD.

You might not have noticed, but half of the Cocky &
Funny equation is FUNNY. If you're funny, then you
don't have to worry about what you say, because it's
HUMOR.

I'm not sure that "Wow! That's nice shoes!" is the
answer.

OK, MON, get up off your couch and go learn how to
meet some women. And stop being a whiner.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You may not consider this a true success story since
it's not about scoring with every good-looking girl
I meet. Rather it's about the change in my feeling
about myself. In the past few months I've gone from
feeling absolutely crushed by "rejection" or seizing
up to recognizing that there are so many attractive
women out there, IT DOESN'T MATTER if one of them
shoots you down. I've also reached the point where
I can approach a cute girl and get her e-mail/number.
I admit sometimes it's not her real info, but this
is a work in progress. I'm on several online dating/chatting
sites, working my stuff. I'm even using the arrogant
humour routines on two of my former love interests
and am starting to see some smoke rising as a result.
I'm working the material on the servers at the restaurants
I frequent. And on and on...

At first, I didn't think it could take three years
to "get it down," but last night I had my first cup-of-tea-at-
Starbucks date and now I understand even more what
you talk about on the CDs. It does take time to become
"totally congruent" with this. But it's going to be
so much fun getting there!

So, in conclusion, I already consider myself to be
a success simply because I feel so much more empowered
as a man. Thank you.

CPAG
Tucson, Arizona


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Actually, this is, to me, the BEST kind of Success
Story there is. Getting a hot woman's number isn't
a big deal once you know how.

But changing how you FEEL inside and how you feel
about YOURSELF is huge.

Great job.



***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I got your book and subscribed to the emails about
a year ago. It's great stuff. A lot of it is new
to me - but so much is obvious (with hindsight!!).
I am seeing my inner game change slowly but surely,
so that I feel less and less that I need a woman and
more and more that they are lucky to have me. Looking
back (I am 40) I reckon I have been most successful
with girls when I was most relaxed and confident -
they say success breeds success!

Here are a couple of interesting experiences I have
had that confirm your approach -

I had a 19 yr old foreign student as a girlfriend
a while back. The first night back at my place I
offered to call a taxi for, her put her in the spare
bedroom or she could sleep with me. Obviously she
chose to sleep with me! I was just trying to be a
gentleman - but my theory now is that by 'pulling
back' I challenged her expectations (that most guys
would be desperate for her to stay) and I forced her
to take responsibility for choosing what SHE wanted
(whereas most girls spend their time rejecting what
GUYS want).

My latest girlfriend is 29 and a total babe. But
she is a bit spoilt. She often gets sulky if she
feels she isn't getting enough attention from me.
In the past I would have done whatever she asked.
Now I realise that is a game you can never win. Instead
I ask her if she treats her friends like this - no -
so why does she think it is ok with me? She has actually
said that she really respects me for not letting her
be a spoilt brat. Also sometimes she threatens to
find another boyfriend. I always tell her that I can't
stop her if that's what she wants. Then she always
says she doesn't want anyone else. It seems so obvious
now - why should a woman respect a man she can control??

I read your latest email about getting numbers. The
point about not hiding your intentions is so true!
Of course a woman knows what you want. If you pretend
otherwise you just seem weak (& also you have made
it really hard to bridge to getting the number - Doh!).

BUT… why do you say turn away & then turn back as if
it is an afterthought?? Isn't this exactly the pretence
you said not to do? Why not just say 'I've got to
go now, but I'd like to talk to you again. Have you
got email?' Isn't that less wussy? Or am I missing
some subtlety here. (I have tried the turning away
thing, but without success - I think maybe I am not
a very good actor)

Thanks for the fantastic information, Dave,

N.

England.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's fine to NOT turn away, and just ask a woman for
her email address directly.

You're making me reflect on how I developed my "3
Minute Email And Number" technique...

In the beginning, I imagined that it was basically
impossible to walk up to a woman who was a complete
stranger and have her just give her number to me.

So I started learning different kinds of tricks and
techniques, from palmistry to handwriting analysis...
and all kinds of other freaky and almost embarrassing
ideas.

I basically figured that I would have to somehow "distract"
a woman from the fact that I was "interested" and get
her number without her really understanding that I
WAS interested.

The turning away, then turning back is something that
is kind of "left over" from those days of being clever.

Turning away, then turning back basically demonstrates
to a woman that you're OK with walking away without
getting her number... which is a good exercise if
you're at the stage where you get nervous asking for
a woman's number/email.

Feel free to just say "Do you have email?" and then
"Great, write it down... I want to talk to you again"
etc.

As long as you are cool and calm with all of your
other communication, you'll be fine.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Saint Dave- I'll skip all the 'you're so great' stuff
and get to the point. I've been learning and practicing
you're techniques. And, as you know, they've been working.
But I'm not writing to tell you about my successes-
rather I've got a story I find humorous.

Currently I'm going to college in California, but
I'm moving to NYC in May. Somehow my EX-girlfriend (who
lives in NYC) heard through the grapevine that I was
moving there. Out of the blue she calls me- after 3
THREE YEARS and a very unpleasant break-up. At first
the conversation is strained and awkward, but I'm using
the all C&F stuff unconsciously. As I do I feel her start
to loosen up to me, and she offers me a place to stay
'for one night' when I get to New York. I hit her back
with 'Well, I'm pretty busy. But if you wear a sexy
dress, cook me dinner and give me a massage, maybe I
could find time in my schedule.' We go back and forth
like this for a minute or two and then I end the whole
conversation abruptly. Since then she's been calling
and sending emails all the time, virtually begging me
to come and stay with her 'for as long as I like'. Now
the point of this story was that I was not even TRYING.
I had no intention of re-kindling the old flame, or even
hooking up for a one-nighter. But the C&F stuff was so
ingrained to my behavior, that even my ex-girlfriend
who hated my guts was falling for it. Thanks man- you're
helping humanity.

PF

San Fran, CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, well surprise surprise.

Here's something that I'm hearing more and more from
guys who REALLY understand how to make women feel
ATTRACTION... and who have more dates then they can
handle:

"You know, it's funny... the more I ignore and don't
pursue women, the more they call me and won't leave
me alone."

Why is this?

Think about it.

Because when you don't care, you DO all the right
things, and you SAY all the right things.

Be careful, it sounds like you might turn your ex
into your new stalker!



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Your stuff helped me to consciously identify for the
first time what I had done right all these years (approximately
18 years, counting "courtship") to get and keep an
incredibly beautiful wife (she's in her low 40's but
gets carded every time she orders a drink). But,
more importantly, you've shone a light on those few
bleak and sadly deficient skills that I'd let slip,
"'cause we're married". Let me tell you, "My wife is
much happier, now!" (I couldn't understand why she got
so irritated when I didn't care where we ate. I really
don't care, but she'll never hear it from me again.)
In fact, we spent a Saturday afternoon and evening this
weekend that could make a lot of your single guy/player
types jealous!

One final thought that I suppose you could count as
another success: I'm ashamed to say, (from the context
of a married guy) a friend of my wife appeared to have
gotten a little too attracted from her time hanging
out with us. So, I turned it ALL on ... in REVERSE!
You know, "I don't want to hurt my wife, but I love
you. I know we shouldn't do anything, but I NEED you..."
(You know, once you stop, it's kind of weird to act
like a wussy on purpose!) Anyway, it worked like a
charm, you could almost see the little cartoon cloud
where she had been standing!

Well, that was more than I intended, I just wanted to
be counted if you start tallying up the married guys
that respond to your Q&A.

E.
Fla.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I love it when married guys like yourself
write in (which happens more and more often) and tell
me how this stuff is making their relationships better.

Women never stop wanting a man to do the right things...
if only more men knew this.

And your thought about how to act like a Wuss on PURPOSE
to make a woman run away is great.

Isn't THAT interesting?



***QUESTION***

dear Dave,

I have used both your email book and the cd seminar
with tremendous benefit. I have more than doubled my
dating! I always chuckle at the guys out there who
say you "make up these emails",. I have at least 10
friends who subscribe to the newsletter and have written
you, and you have reproduced their emails verbatim.
Now for my question. I have, on several occasions,
met women and , as a segue to cocky and funny, told
them I am chippendale dancer when I responding to the
question of "what do you do for a living". Now I don't
look like a chippendale dancer, (actually I'm a businessman)
but these woman start believing my story and I run
with it all night and I am cocky/funny to the max (for
example, I'll state that I hate women coming onto me
since I'm a dancer, and that women only use me because
I'm a dancer). Now the question I have is how should
I respond when these women find out I am not a dancer?
I know in your cd seminar one of the people you interviewed
stated he would state outrageous occupations such as
a slave trader. How far is too far? I can go the whole
night with a make-believe occupation and play along
with a woman. When do you break them the news that you
are not who you state you are, ie dancer? Eventually
you have to to be honest, right? Is there a point that
you have to be honest because if you are not the woman
may think you are a total liar and not trustworthy. I
mean I have played this role of dancer so convincingly
that they actually believe my story and the attraction
level increases with C & F and they start attacking me,
but I am afraid of the ramifications of what will happen
when they find out that I am not a dancer. Need some
advice from the Mack Master,

Al in D.C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL... Dude, this is funny stuff.

So let me get this straight... you tell women that
you're a male stripper, and then they fall for you...
and you don't know how to "let them down easy"?

If a woman actually BELIEVES crazy things like this,
I like to turn it up a notch and say "Well, actually
I used to be a male stripper, but now I'm a porn star...
are you OK with that?"

I don't like it if a woman believes something that
isn't true for too long... remember, you're just kidding.

And if a woman DOES believe something for too long,
and then gets a little upset, just say "What?! You
weren't actually dumb enough to BELIEVE that I was
a male STRIPPER, are you? I don't think this relationship
is going to work. I would NEVER be with a woman that
would date a STRIPPER..."

And by the way, thanks for mentioning that I faithfully
print the emails that I use in my newsletters, because
I do... they're all real.

Thanks for your email.



***QUESTION***

David,

First off, i realize you hear this a lot but your
ebook is totally the mack- i've seen a big difference
in my interaction with women which i'll contribute
much of my success to your book.

I've recently been giving some serious thought to
ordering your advanced materials. Here's my question:
With the other 1 billion "buy our stuff and your success
with women will boom for three easy payments of $19.99"
sites, how would you compare your $195 advanced audio
tape series to [other dating products] which tout basically
the same types of things for about half the price? Don't
get me wrong, i'm not saying your stuff isn't brilliant,
and i realize that i've easily spent $195 in dates/on
women, i just wondered what your take is.

Thanks a ton and keep up the great work!

-M.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, here's the deal...

I'm about to say some things that are going to make
me sound a little too confident, so get ready...

I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to be successful
with women and dating.

YEARS.

I read books, listened to tapes, went to seminars...
and tried all KINDS of things. I mean, if you knew
half of the stuff that I tried, you'd laugh your ass
off at me.

Most of it didn't work... and the stuff that did work
actually worked IN SPITE of the fact that it was lame.

I mean, if you do ANYTHING it will work SOME of the
time.