How To Keep A Woman Interested In You

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***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Great stuff. The more I use it the better it works
and the more the women enjoy it. I'll try to keep
this short. I've found that keeping C&F as the main
focus makes me (and the woman) much less nervous when
I've arrived at a woman's house. For example, the
last girl I was with kept apologizing for how messy
her place was. Doesn't she understand that I'm a guy
and I'm not looking at the stuff on the floor I'm just
planning to add what she's wearing to the mess? Anyway,
I used a line from you and a fellow DYD fan and told
her not to apologize just not to let it happen again.
Instant karma. Kept it up and the clothes came off.
Well, this takes me to my question.

I met the messy apartment girl a few weeks ago, got
her number, called her a few days later and set up a
date. Things went swimmingly, used the C&F and ended
up at her place. All good. My question is, what is
your advice on calling after having spent the night
with a woman? Call her the next day, which is what
all my female friends say is the chivalrous (but possibly
wussy) thing to do? Wait a few days? And what if
one has decided not to give her everything she wants
on the first night and just fooled around? Same follow-up
policy? Should it always be a call or is email OK?
What should the tone be? C&F no doubt.

Cheers,

Less wussy more...


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, it sounds to me like you're actually asking
a slightly different question than you have asked.

What I hear you asking is: "If I meet a girl that
I actually LIKE, what should I do after we first get
together to make sure that we KEEP getting together?"

And this is a great question.

I personally think:

1) Most guys "settle" for the women that they wind
up in long-term relationships with.

2) When you begin to understand women and have more
success, you start to realize that MOST women ARE
NOT the type that you'd be HAPPY with long-term.

3) When you have gone through the process of learning
how to be more successful with women and make them
feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION... and
then you finally DO meet a woman you really like,
you have to handle the situation in the right way
if you want to keep her.

You've asked me a whole bunch of specific questions,
like how long should I wait to call, whether to call
or email, tone, etc.

It sounds to me like you actually LIKE this particular
girl, and would like to pursue this in a "let's see
if this turns into something" kind of way.

With that in mind, I think you need to realize
a few things about what a woman EXPECTS you to do...

If you're dealing with an attractive woman, then
you must remember that you're not the first guy who
has ever been interested in her.

In fact, she's probably approached all the time
by guys, and she probably has a lot of experience
with guys who want to "get involved" with her.

This is one of those funny situations that works
in kind of a backwards way (not unlike many other
aspects of male/female relationships, actually).

If you meet an attractive girl, you can be pretty
sure of a few things:

1) She gets approached by men, one way or another,
all the damn time.

2) 99% of the men that she meets and dates wind up
following her around like puppies... either from the
beginning or eventually.

3) When a guy acts "too nice" and does it "too soon",
she sees this as a sign of neediness and weakness,
and she's repelled by it.

I realize that this is going to sound like some
kind of bizarre Zen self-help B.S., but sometimes
you have to push things away from you gently in order
to bring them to you.

And beautiful women fall into this category.

At my last couple of Double Your Dating LIVE!
Seminars, I asked a simple question:

"How do you make someone want something?"

Have you ever thought about that concept?

Why is it that people WANT things in the first
place, and how can you actually MAKE someone want
something?

When you think about the things that YOU want,
and then ask yourself WHY you want those things, you'll
begin to realize why this is such a profound question.

Why is it that Coke has dominated the cola market
when we all know that Pepsi wins the taste tests?

Why is it that people in Los Angeles buy so many
four-wheel drive SUVs?

Why is it that some nightclubs keep people outside
in line for hours when there's plenty of room inside
the club?

Well, I obviously can't go into an in-depth explanation
of why these things are so, but I think it's obvious
that:

1) Most of the things that people "want" aren't for
the most logical reasons.

2) We humans only "want what we don't have"... and
once we get what we want, we quickly get bored.

3) Even knowing that something is readily available
to us makes us lose interest.

So why such a long explanation?

Why not just tell you when to call her, what to
say, and what tone to use?

Because even if you know the exact right words
to say, and the exact right time to say them, the
woman you're talking to will still be able to pick
up what you're REALLY thinking if you don't understand
how and why women become attracted to men.

Here are a few ways to make a person want something:

1) Create a challenge.

2) Give her a little, then lean back.

3) Give her the gift of missing you.

4) Be unpredictable.

When you create a challenge, you really ENGAGE a
woman's mind and emotions.

Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men that are push-over
Wuss Bags. Women feel ATTRACTION for men who are a
CHALLENGE.

When you give a woman a little bit, then lean back,
you set up a "Hey, I want more of that" situation.

If you just keep pouring on the attention and giving
her everything she wants, you'll become uninteresting.

When you give a woman the "Gift of missing you",
you realize that for women, thinking about, missing,
and anticipating the next time is often even more
powerful than the actual EXPERIENCE of "the next time".

Men often get insecure, and feel that they have
to call and keep an eye on a woman all the time. This
is a huge mistake. It says all the wrong things.

When you're UNPREDICTABLE, you do something that
is almost MAGIC... when a man understands how to make
a woman feel ATTRACTION, then he doesn't do things
that are PREDICTABLE, women will tend to think about
him ALL THE TIME.

Things that are predictable don't require much
thought. They're uninteresting and boring.

Things that are UNPREDICTABLE, on the other hand,
require a LOT of thought. Unpredictable things are
FASCINATING to people... especially women.

What makes a movie lame?

Predictability.

What makes a movie great?

A well-written story that ISN'T predictable.

Predictability and BORING-NESS are the enemies
of ATTRACTION.

Here are a few thoughts on the questions you asked:

1) If you call her the next day, be cool about it.
Don't try to be too "suave", and don't try to set
up another date immediately. Call and say "Hey, what's
up?" Make a little small talk, then hang up. Lean
back, and she'll be thinking about you for the next
several days (if you didn't act like a dumb-ass the
night before, that is).

2) If you email, keep it light as well. In this day
and age, I find it natural to email or call.

3) Your TONE should be cool, calm, laid back, busy,
and upbeat. Never complain about things, whine, or
act like you're in a bad mood and need attention.

4) Be very cool about this. Don't act like you might
want to get married within 90 days, or like you've
met the woman of your dreams. Give her some space,
and the gift of missing you.

5) For the first 10 dates or so, don't see her more
than once or twice a week. Stay busy with your life,
and always have things going on.

6) Until you decide that you really like a particular
woman and want to "settle down" with her, or have
a long-term relationship, don't focus too much energy
on the relationship. If you're dating other women,
don't stop. When you focus all of your energy and
time on a woman that you've just met, it often creeps
them out and makes them run.

Use these concepts HOWEVER you decide to communicate
with her.

And by the way, if you're reading this right now
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Your Friend,

David D.




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