How To Handle CHALLENGING Women

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***QUESTION***

Hey Dave!

Ok, so after all these hundreds of e-mails and testimonials
you get, you KNOW this cocky+funny works, but I must
say I'm happy that I FEEL I'm starting to get it.
I had your ebook and cd series for a few months and
I listened to the cds and read the book over and over.
It was great but I guess its obvious you dont see
success until you get out there and practice it and
SEE how it works. At first, it simply made no sense...
I tried it and didnt get much response until I developed
the character for it and made it apart of me. Cocky+funny
isnt something you try out, its something you have
to make a part of you! When you do that, c+f comes
natural and makes conversations so much more fun!
Not only that it creates that attraction you talk
about so much! So, like I said, having the right MINDSET
is whats important,not learning LINES, but here's
a few I like. And I could use some of these when I
feel the conversation is drying up.

"Hey...<pause>....quit looking at my ass! I know you
want to jump my bones but slow down!" (even if she
wasnt doing that)

(when a woman gets quiet or there's a break in the
conversation) "I know I make you nervous and all but
please...try to control yourself!"

Here's one question I like to ask:
Me: So do you cook...well?
Her: Yes, I do.
Me: Great, since you know the way to a man's heart
is through his stomach, you can cook me dinner. I
want....(fill in whatever you want her to cook!)

"You couldnt handle this..." (that one alone works
well)

(if you catch her looking at you...or even if you
dont) "I saw that...I know you keep looking at my
sexy bod and you want it so bad you're drooling,
but cant we be friends first?"

"Are you shy or something? Why havent you asked me
out yet (or asked for my phone number)? I know you're
afraid I'll seduce you and make you fall madly in
love with me but you'll just have to learn to handle
it!"

"Tsk tsk tsk...you should be ashamed of yourself."
She says: "Why?" "For trying to seduce/pickup a guy
like me! I know you want me but be patient!"

(when she does something I dont like) "Well, its just
not workin between us. I'm going to have to cut off
the sex, the kisses, the cuddling, all of it until
you be a good girl!"

Most of my C+F focuses on assuming she wants you
and is trying to pick up on you, even if she doesnt!
(well, personally I believe all women want me for
my sexy bod and usually when I use the techniques,
they DO!) I think what surprised me the most is that
these work with women I JUST MET! I thought I'd find
it easier to learn C+F from an angle...some like to
bust on women's looks, her clothes, etc...but I took
the approach of accusing her of being obssessed with
me...it works! I also find it effective to turn around
some common things men do for women...like I tell
women to buy ME dinner, buy ME gifts, take ME out,
pick ME up, etc. I love it! I have so much more fun
now and there's no fear in talking to women anymore...
its great.

I know you dont like relationship questions but
I'm going to ask anyhow. Is it necessary to tone down
the cocky+funny when you two become boyfriend/girlfriend?
(not cut it off completely, but tone it down) And
second, how do you respond when women start challenging
you back? (her saying: "you couldnt handle this" for
example) I know you shouldnt turn wussy but I dont
have a good response to her turning it on me...which
I like the challenge of it but I'd like to know some
good comebacks.

Thanks a million Dave!

GT
from Tennessee


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Those are some GREAT "one-liners" you shared.

Some are personal favorites of mine... and some WILL
BE SOON.

I really dig the whole "You couldn't handle this"
concept.

I personally love to say "We'd fight all the time...
and I'D WIN". That's a big winner. Try it out...

I also love the idea of using gender stereotypes,
turning gender stereotypes around, using them as comedy,
etc...

You can combine this idea with a "setup"- starting out
sounding like a Wussy, then going in a completely
different direction right at the end for effect.

Example:

You say to a really attractive, interesting woman
something like "You know, you really seem like a smart
woman... you're obviously more intelligent than the
average girl..."

Then you say "And since you probably understand men
better than most women, you've probably already realized
that you being a woman, and me being a challenging
man, YOU COULDN'T HANDLE THIS!"

Ohhh I love that kind of thing!

The magic of a setup like that one is that she BEGINS
to think that you're a Wussbag from hell, but when
you get to the end of what you're saying, she realizes
that you were saying something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.

What you were REALLY saying is "I understand that
most guys act like Wussies and give you compliments,
but the fact is that any compliment I give you is
sarcasm, and, in fact, you really couldn't handle
me... because you didn't even see THAT coming!

So what is it about this kind of approach and humor
that makes it SOOOO special and wonderfully effective?

Answer: It says SO many things at the same time that
are all "the right thing"...

In other words, instead of trying to demonstrate that
you're not a Wuss, that you're funny, that you're
smart, that you "get it", and that you don't NEED
her... you can just use a comment like this one.

Good stuff.

Now let's talk about your questions...

You asked if one should "turn down" the Cocky & Funny
once you get into a long-term relationship...

I personally think NOT.

Why would you?

If you've found something that works, why would you
stop doing it?

In fact, I've seen SOOOO many situations in my life
where a guy started out doing all the right things,
then after "getting the girl", and winding up in a
long-term relationship, they change what they're doing,
become boring and predictable, and lose the girl because
they became dull and lame.

As you know, I'm kind of violating one of my rules
of thumb, and talking about relationships... but since
I'm at it, I'll make a few more comments...

Have you ever heard things like "relationships take
work" and "you have to put a lot into a relationship
if you want to get a lot out of it"...?

I'm sure you have.

MOST guys interpret this to mean that after you get
into a relationship you should start doing whatever
your girlfriend/wife wants you to, and not argue with
her.

In other words, most guys think that "put a lot into
a relationship" means "turn into SuperWuss and kiss
as much ass as possible so you won't get into trouble".

I'm sure you can tell just by the way I'm talking
that I don't think this is a particularly smart way
to go about things...

In fact, if you want to wake up one day in the future
with an unhappy, unsatisfied, complaining girlfriend
or wife, then start using this particular approach.

If a woman "falls for you", then that MEANS SOMETHING.

It means that whatever you were doing at the time
WORKED.

Now, if you were being Cocky & Funny, then that was
working.

So keep it up.

An exception: If you were chasing a woman for ten
years, buying her thousands of dollars worth of gifts,
flowers, and dinners, and one day she finally "decided
that you were good marriage material" and she finally
"gave in"... then don't listen to what I just said.

In fact, if you are in the above situation, you are
probably beyond help, so delete this newsletter right
now, and don't read any further.

It will only depress you and mess up your "nice" relationship...

On to your second question (the one I like best anyways):

"How do you respond when women start challenging you
back?"

Why do I like this question best?

Because you're missing something...

If you start challenging a woman and teasing her,
and she starts challenging you back, IT IS ON!

Game on, dude!

Didn't you see Top Gun?

She just ENGAGED.

She just joined you in YOUR REALITY (for those who
don't know what this means, refer to my Advanced Dating
Techniques program... this is a KEY concept for attracting
women).

Most guys interpret a woman challenging them back
as her saying "I don't find you interesting" or "You
don't impress me".

It's usually exactly the OPPOSITE.

When a woman teases or challenges back it means that
she's INTO IT.

She's saying "Oh yea? Bring it on... let's play!".

On the "surface" she's saying "You couldn't handle
this", but on a subtle level she's saying "I have
received your Sexual Communication, and I am transmitting
on your frequency... let's rock and roll".

So how should you handle it?

Try this formula:

1) Pause.

2) Slowly wrinkle your brow and smile smugly.

3) Pause.

4) Keep looking her in the eye (don't flinch).

5) Say "Oh, you think? What, I'd get bored that fast?
You're probably right..."

Are you with me here?

TURN UP THE VOLUME.

The game is now officially ON, so PLAY BALL.

The great thing about a situation like this one is
that she is HELPING YOU dial up the chemistry and
sexual tension.

She is making it MUCH EASIER for you to make her feel
ATTRACTION for you.

These are the types of situations that often end with
"And at the end of the night she suddenly jumped on
me and ripped my clothes off...".

I'm not kidding. Not at all.

But if you flinch and let her know that she just disturbed
your composure, you are TOAST.

It's all over.

This little moment of truth can take things to the
next level FAST... or it can end your chances with
her INSTANTLY.

When a woman challenges you back in a Cocky & Funny
way, she has just pressed the accelerator pedal to
the floor.

She just upped the ante.

She pushed all her chips in to see if you're going
to puss out and fold.

She's not wasting any time... she wants to know if
you are MAN or BOY.

If you casually chuckle to yourself inside and mentally
say to yourself "what a cute little bratty girl" and
then bust on her, you'll win.

If you get nervous and slip, you'll lose.

Here's another insight for you:

This kind of woman is the MOST FUN to be around.

But she's also the biggest challenge.

She'll keep testing you over and over and over again...
relentlessly.

And just when you thought it was safe to pull back
to "nice guy", she'll be off like a shot.

Gone.

Read what I have written to you, grasshopper... and
take heed.

I have lost many a hottie because I didn't "get it"
when it came down to one of these situations.

Learn from my mistakes.

Be the guy who casually stands there with one hand
behind your back blocking all the punches from your
opponent and teasing him for being a Wuss at the same
time...

Not the guy who's sweating his ass off and flailing
around like a child who's getting frustrated because
his older brother is beating him up...

This is Jedi stuff, man.

Go watch the scene in the original "Matrix" where
Neo is in the ring with Morpheus for the first time...
watch and listen to what happens.

The more you work with this material, the more you'll
begin to have a "sixth sense" about women and the
sexual tension that's created when you use the techniques
you've learned in my Advanced Series...

...Oh, and if you're reading this right now and you
HAVEN'T gotten your copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
Program yet, then you need to go and do that...

Have you ever been to a carnival or county fair?

You know those games that you can play and win a huge
stuffed animal... and all it takes is a dollar or
two to play?

You walk over to check it out, and the guy behind
the counter says "Here, watch... it's EASY"... and
then he demonstrates how to win the game.

You watch him with your own two eyes.

It looks SIMPLE.

Easy, even.

Then he says "Here, I'll even give you a PRACTICE
TRY so you can try it...".

Of course, on your practice try you get CLOSE, but
not quite.

He says "Here, buy three and I'll give you two for
nothin'".

Of course, you wind up losing your money, and not
winning anything.

Now why is it that the guy behind the counter can
win so easily, and show you over and over and over
how simple it is to win... but when YOU try, it's
just not possible?

Because he KNOWS SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T.

He knows the SECRET.

Well, meeting women is very similar.

If you don't KNOW THE SECRET, you can watch a guy
"pick up" a woman, and TOTALLY MISS the "keys" to
how he did it.

In fact, it's very common for me to be teasing and
flirting with a woman, and have guys around me and
her say "Oh, he's just kidding" or "He doesn't really
mean that stuff"...

In other words, they're standing right there and SEEING
IT WORK, but they JUST DON'T GET IT!

It took me YEARS to finally "figure out the trick",
and start to GET what was going on... and what makes
a women feel ATTRACTION for a guy she's just met (as
well as understanding why it is that most women reject
most men almost instantly).

In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program, I
take you "behind the scenes" and explain the secrets
that it's taken me YEARS and YEARS to figure out...
and I take you by the hand and show you step-by-step
how to overcome your fear and shyness, how to approach
women and get emails/numbers, how to get dates, and
how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly
and without "rejection".

This program is unique, and it's the most complete
education you can get on this topic.

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concepts and techniques, go download my online eBook
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And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.






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