Meeting VERY Attractive Women


David,

(This is going to be long, deal.) I am a recovering
wuss. Less than two months ago a 2 year relationship
finally ran itself into the ground. Knowing what I
know now I don't think would have saved it, but I think
it would have been more fun while it lasted, and I
would have gotten out a lot sooner. Advice to other
guys who are in confusing transitional periods...focus
on yourself. Think about your life, what you're doing,
and where you are going. After being in a long relationship,
you forget what it's like to be on your own and think
about yourself. Being directed and happy with your
own life is the best thing you can do for your love
life. I've started to "get it" and since the breakup
I've been hitting the gym every day, standing up straighter,
eating better, working harder, getting more involved
with my family, etc. My life is a LOT busier now than
it used to, and it feels great. It also gives you a
much different perspective on women. This has already
been covered quite a bit, but it's true that this is
a cycle. If you have confidence in your life, women
will respond very positively on you, which gives you
more confidence in your love life. Acting picky (in a
smart way) about women is a self-fulfilling thought!

Now my question. There's a girl I met about 6 months
ago while I was still in that other relationship...she's
about a 9 in looks, and she is the only girl I've ever
met who I think might actually be as smart as I am.

She's very young though, and probably not very experienced
as far as relationships go. When we first met, we
talked for quite a while and it turned out we share
a LOT of obscure interests and at the time she gave
me her email AND phone number without my asking for
it. Somehow that didn't send up the "she wants you"
flag, as I was in dumbass male wussy boy relationship
mode. Well now I've gotten back in touch with her.
Her first response was very positive, with comments
like "I was afraid you'd forgotten about little old
me!" and such. She also apologized for taking so long
to reply (it was only a few days) since she had been
on vacation. I figured there was never a better time
to try out c&f so I responded with "So what are you
going to do to make it up to me?" I had never imagined
I could be so bold, but it felt SO right. You are
absolutely right when you say that c&f isn't game playing.
It's what deep down inside we are all supposed to be
doing! Well, she responded almost apologetically with
a suggestion that we could go out and then figure it
out, and she said maybe go to a movie or a particular
museum, or anything...I responded with (and here's where
my question starts) "hmm..sounds tempting..how about
all of the above?" She also closed that email with
"lots of love," Now at this point, I fought HARD
to stave off wussy boy mode. I was thinking that
the "nice" (wussy) thing to do would be to also close
with "lots of love" or something along those lines.
So instead, I continued to bust on her as I had throughout
the email by responding to it with "hmm...again...lots
sounds tempting but.. how about all?"

Now my question is this. These responses seem like
they might be wussy since they are "admitting" at
least indirectly that I feel strongly about her and
want to spend a lot of time with her. However, they
are a stark contrast to the "oh yes, lets please go
to a movie! I'm the luckiest moron ever!" and "love,"
responses. To generalize further, as long as you take
a step back and say what you want to say for yourself
(because it's what you want) and not what you think
they want to hear, is that good enough? I'm reminded
of the contrast you made between "Can I take you out
to dinner?" and "I'm going out to dinner, you should
join me."

Thanks,

J.M., New Hampshire
(Where men are men and sheep are scared.)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Dude!

It's NOT cool to write "Where men are men and sheep
are scared" as the tagline after your name.

Stop that.

Now let's have a little talk...

To comment on the first thing that you talked about,
it really is easy to fall into a pattern of negative
behavior when you're in a long relationship that isn't
working.

Sometimes it seems easier to act like a Wuss, do
what your girlfriend/wife wants, and put aside your
own self respect just to avoid conflicts when a relationship
is going bad.

Hell, sometimes it becomes easy to do this even
when a relationship is going WELL if you don't know
any better.

And by the time you finally get OUT of the relationship
you can be left with a negative outlook, resentment
towards your ex (that you project onto other women),
and all kinds of other baggage.

Oh, and you're right on... when you are in one
of these "transitional" periods, it's a GREAT idea
to focus on yourself, and work on getting your
life together.

Raising your standards, staying busy, improving
all areas of your life... all great ideas.

The idea of becoming more "picky" is also a winner.

Women are attracted to men who have high standards.

Now to your question...

You've brought up a distinction that is VERY, VERY
important.

And once you get the hang of making this distinction
and communicating effectively with it, you'll notice
a MAJOR shift in the way women respond to you.

You're definitely on the right track, so let's
really get into this issue.

Most men make the mistake of doing and saying a
million little things that, as you say, make it "seem
like they might be wussy since they are "admitting"
at least indirectly that I feel strongly about her
and want to spend a lot of time with her".

Bingo.

So let's break this down.

Your question to me is basically "Is it "good enough"
that I don't tell a woman what she wants to hear?
And is it OK to let her know, or "admit" that I'm
interested in her?"

You had some kind of confusing, mixed up, convoluted
way of asking... so I thought I'd do you the favor
of making it simple and understandable.

You can pay me later.

Anyway,

Why would you want to "admit" to a woman this early
on that you are "interested" in her?

Your Inner Wuss is just longing for a way to express
herself... I mean himself... isn't she/he?

And ESPECIALLY with a woman who you described as
a "9 in looks" and "as smart as you"?!

Get with the program, man.

This woman KNOWS that every guy in the world wants
her. She walks through the world ASSUMING that at
an unconscious level.

When you "admit" that you're interested in her
in all these subtle and cute little ways you're just
basically making yourself more and more like all the
other guys in the world (in her mind, that is).

Don't you see?

In her email to you, she said: "I was afraid you'd
forgotten about little old me!" and she also "apologized
for taking so long to reply".

Then you responded by saying "So when are you going
to make it up to me?"...

PERFECT.

She replied by saying "we could go out and figure
it out then..." and she also suggested a movie or
museum.

Again, DON'T YOU SEE?

What you did WORKED!

It worked, so now you want to do something ELSE.

Humans love to find things that work, then do something
else as soon as possible.

Here's a little wisdom from the mouth of David D.:

When you find something that works with women,
KEEP DOING IT.

I know, it's profound, isn't it?

You can pay me for that later as well.

Instead of replying "How about all of the above",
you should have replied with:

"A movie or a museum? Great, maybe we could stop
and buy some GERITOL on the way. Think of something
more interesting to make it up to me. And hurry up,
because I'm starting to think that maybe you're not
as smart and creative as I had originally guessed."

And by the way, she also closed her email with
"lots of love"... and you replied with "hmm... again...
lots sounds tempting but..how about all?"

That's good. Funny.

But try this:

"Lots of love, huh? How sweet. But you can stop
beating around the bush and admit that you love me
and can't wait to be in the warm glow of my presence.
We're both adults, and you can be honest with me."

When you say "how about all?" it suggests that
it's YOU who wants it... instead of HER who feels
it.

Stop with the secretly trying to let women know
that you're "interested". They know it. The more you
are Cocky & Funny, unpredictable, flirty, and charming...
and the more you never admit to ANYTHING, the more
fascinated and attracted she's going to feel.

Get rid of the idea that letting her know that
you like her with words is going to be a good thing
early on.

If anything, tell her she's a Brat, that she's
walking on thin ice, and that she'd BETTER watch her
step or else you'll leave her for a rich older woman
who may not look so good but will pay all your bills
and take care of you and will be more enjoyable to
visit museums and movies with (even if it does mean
taking Geritol...).

Your last question ended with "...is that good
enough?"

Stop trying to be or act "good enough".

"Good enough" usually isn't.

You want to be UNBELIEVABLY good.

You want to behave in a way that causes women to
say "I've never met anyone like you before".

When you start hearing that, you'll know you're
on the right track.

And if you're reading this right now, and you
want to learn the EXACT, step-by-step sequence of
things you need to do to have women saying things
like this to you, then I recommend that you check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

Let me rant and rave for a minute...

Next time you're down at the bookstore, look around
in the "relationship" section. Also, check out the
"sexuality" section. Flip through some of the books.

I want you to look at what kind of information
is available to teach you about how to be more successful
with women and dating.

Here's what you'll find:

1) Lot's of books by PhDs and therapists who have
been divorced 47 times...

These guys love to talk about all kinds of sweet
and wonderful things like the differences between
men and women, communication, respect, and honesty.

2) A few that are just rewritten books from the 70s
and 80s about how to meet women. I enjoy these most.
They say all kinds of profound things like "Women
don't like pick up lines because they come across
as insincere" or "Women love pick up lines because
they show a fun attitude". Or they give a detailed
explanation of how to tell whether a woman is flipping
her hair because she is interested in you or because
she's mad. It's good comedy.

3) Three-inch-thick studies of human sexuality. On
page 457 you'll read that only 7% of women report
that they enjoy sex in the "rear entry" position.
That's enough reason to not buy those books right
there, if you ask me. Oh, and make sure you look at
the PICTURES of the guys and gals that WRITE these
particular books. Yea, this guy knows how to meet
women. His mom, maybe.

And if you want to waste even more time (but laugh
while you're doing it), go search ONLINE for products
about how to meet women.

This is where the REAL entertainment is.

Before you buy anything, do make sure that they
offer a money-back guarantee (because you'll be asking
for it within 15 minutes of your purchase).

The internet is the ultimate snake-oil distribution
device. Hell, maybe I should start selling snake oil
online. I'd probably get rich overnight.

Whatever. I think you feel me.

My point is simply that most of the people who
are writing about this topic either don't teach ANYTHING
about how to meet women and make them feel the emotion
of ATTRACTION for you, or they teach stuff that's
100 years old (and it didn't work back then either).

I really, really encourage you to go see for yourself.
An hour in a bookstore will tell you everything you
need to know.

So are my techniques and products any different?

If so, how? (Hey, I told you I was going to rant
and rave...)

The thing that makes my techniques, products, and
systems different from everything else is:

1) I learned and developed most of it by spending
time watching and learning from many guys who are
"naturally" successful with women, and finding all
the things they have in common. Most of these things
have NEVER even been described before by ANYONE.

2) I used to be HORRIBLE at meeting women. Horrible
doesn't even describe it well, because I was so bad
that I never even tried! I couldn't even start a conversation
with a woman I didn't know. I spent literally YEARS
trying to unlock the secrets and discover what worked
with women. I tried just about everything (most of
which didn't work very well). It wasn't until I really
started studying and working with some REALLY successful
guys that I was able to find the things that worked
to meet and date women.

And let me tell you what... when I started to figure
out what REALLY worked with women, I was SHOCKED.
It didn't make sense to me AT ALL. In fact, I still
shake my head when I think about it.

Most guys go their whole lives with entirely the
wrong idea about "what women want". And because of it,
they live in a reality that never works for them.

Most guys wind up either settling for a woman that
is "the best they can get", or they wind up alone.

Dammit! It doesn't have to be this way!