Mind Tricks For Attracting And Meeting Women


In this newsletter we're going to deal with possibly
the BIGGEST problem guys run into with women.

I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves
and become programmed when it comes to dealing with
women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming
that we often don't even recognize within ourselves.

Let me as you a few questions. Take a moment to
think about the answers... maybe even write them down.

1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall
"positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe
that there is "abundance" when it comes to women,
and that you can go out at any time and get a date
if you want to? Why or why not?

2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming
when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd
like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe
that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman
if you approach her? Do you believe that a woman will
most likely accept or reject a date request from you?

3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that
you have towards women, or have they been "chosen
for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the
media, etc.?

4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes
and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which
ones and what would you like to change them to?


If you're like most guys I know who would like
to improve their success with women, then you probably
have one or two "negative programs" in your unconscious
mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned
the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of
them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women
would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike
up an unexpected conversation with them...

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected
me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking "Why would a woman find
ME attractive?" and not believing that the truly desirable,
beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy
like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't
rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent
literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning
as much as I could about women and attraction, I still
know that somewhere deep in my unconscious mind that
this old programming exists. Of course, it doesn't
affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point
is that once you program yourself or open yourself
to programming from others and from our modern culture,
it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming
and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF
OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE
SUCCESSFUL.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of
women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to
anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler
(well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging
you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't
lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose
for the past 10 years.

It just doesn't matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that's going to be able to do
anything about this programming that we're talking
about is YOU.

Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow
night and say "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about
it. You really need to do something about your unconscious
programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd
like to help you."

Your mom isn't going to call you up and say "You
know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really
put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat
women... I'd like to address those things in this call
and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted
to be."

Nope.

You're not going to get a call from the guys that
run the ads that say "Show her that you love her by
spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings"
to tell you that the ads really aren't true, and that
no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if
you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain't gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming
and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL
YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again... just in case you
didn't get it...

YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

And what's the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question...

There are a lot of ways to get going, but I have
a few favorites... and since we only have a little
time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to
the point...

1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's
REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the
fine details and tells stories about things that we
never see... but are right there in front of us, you
need to look closer.

Here's a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't
been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed
new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that
had just opened, and I spent the day walking around
and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people... and
especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because
I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but
for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little
details... and I was paying special attention to the
couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It's always amazing to me how attractive women
will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...

When you really look around and pay attention to
what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.

And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon
yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say "Yea, but if you're rich or
handsome or tall you'll get more chicks" I will acknowledge
that these things can provide certain advantages,
but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN
get from being physically attractive... not even close,
actually.

The more I pay attention, learn, and try things,
the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY
far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall,
handsome, etc. if they believe that their success
with women comes from those things. Almost universally
they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far
more important than their looks.

I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys
at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting
women. The more experience I have with this, the more
I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the
equation.

You've probably read some of these newsletters
where good- looking guys write in and say "I'm buff,
good looking, and I have women talking to me all the
time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me
as a friend."

So part of this step is for you to take a day or
so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED
with people, and look around at the couples. Look with
your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women
that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider
to be "physically attractive."

You need to see with your own eyes what's going
on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I've ever done is make friends
with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about
success with women here). As a matter of fact, most
of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and
write about originally started out as something I got
from a friend by watching them interact with women.

When you watch guys who know how to make women
feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll
start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the
patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a
woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes
later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do
what it takes to watch some guys interact with women.
It's a big one.

( If you're at a point in your life where you're
too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who
are successful with women, then do yourself a favor
and subscribe to my monthly CD interview series...
that will help a LOT. It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingSystem.com/InterviewSeries/ )

3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're
going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have
this whole part of your life handled.

You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain
that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you're going to
have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going
to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable.
You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just
to look at the people.

But don't worry, no one will care (remember what
I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're
successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve,
and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal,
write down what works and what doesn't, think about
the things you'd like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM
YOURSELF and change your negative programming into
POSTIVE programming and success.

Of course, the best place to start is with some
of the materials that I've put together...

It took me years of trial and error to really figure
out what works with women.

Repeat: It took me YEARS.

Years of trial and error.

I'm talking about trying out everything you can
imagine...and having MOST of it not work.