How To Use Humor To Attract Women


One of the things that I discuss a lot is the idea
of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men while NOT
feeling it for others (even though the men that a
woman feels ATTRACTION for might not be good choices
for her because they're abusive, etc.).

If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach
goes something like this:

ATTRACTION isn't something that is logically chosen.

ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE
to certain cues and behaviors.

One of the things I've isolated that seems to cause
women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men is the
idea that I call being "Cocky & Funny".

This is simply using an arrogant style of humor
when you're dealing with attractive women that leads
to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION for you.

At seminars I teach I realized that several of the guys
were having trouble getting the idea that a woman could
feel an emotion like ATTRACTION in response to something
as seemingly unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially
about her) and making her laugh.

I mean, how COULD this possibly work?

I thought I'd take this newsletter and talk a bit
about why I think that something so illogical could
help you to create ATTRACTION, and some specifics
about how to do it.

First the "WHY"...

Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very different
set of reasons than men do.

Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more
on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM, POWER, and several other
more "intangible" qualities.

Women also love men who can make them laugh.

And by watching a lot of guys who are VERY good
at attracting women, I've noticed a common pattern.

Most of these guys use a common way of communicating
with women that communicates the above qualities WITHOUT
ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY THAT THEY HAVE THEM.

I call this way of communicating "Cocky & Funny",
and it's one of the cornerstones of attracting women.

I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he
triggers a primal response inside of women that creates
an instant emotional ATTRACTION.

This is because women come "pre-wired" with an
internal template of what comprises a desirable mate,
and a set of emotional trigger buttons that, when
pushed, create that powerful emotional response called
ATTRACTION that compels her to mate with the man who
triggers it.

Most men have no idea that this mechanism exists
or how to trigger it, so they do traditional "nice
guy" things like buying dinners, gifts, and flowers...
and giving women compliments... and calling them all
the time (which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired
effect when used too much, and too early on).

As I got to know more and more guys who were REALLY
GOOD with women, I started to see that they weren't
afraid to make fun of attractive women, bust on them,
and even challenge them... but it was always done in
a VERY FUNNY, even charming way.

At first I just assumed that it was the fact that
this pattern was just a technique that my friends
were using to make conversation.

Only after really paying attention, trying out
this technique myself quite a bit, and LOOKING CLOSELY
AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did I begin
to realize the UNBELIVABLY POWERFUL EMOTIONAL RESPONSES
that this one concept was generating.

And after working on it, testing it, refining it,
and studying the finer points about women, men, and
the whole "mating process" did I begin to really understand
how well this worked.

The concept is pretty simple:

1. Take an arrogant comment.

2. Add humor to make it funny.

3. Feel free to use this combination when poking fun
at the woman you're dealing with.


Here's a simple example:

Let's say you're walking down the street with a
woman and she says "Wow, I really like those shoes
in the window" and you answer "You would".

Here's another one:

Let's say you're talking to a woman who's wearing
a pair of shoes with four inch heels, and you say
"So what, are you about four feet tall without the
shoes?"

Get it?

You're saying things that are FUNNY while at the
same time A BIT ARROGANT.

An added bonus that these two examples demonstrate
is that neither one is quite clear.

It's obvious that you're making fun of her, but
it's not exactly clear what you mean.

When you communicate like this, you communicate:

1. That you're confident.

2. That you're comfortable.

3. That you're intelligent.

4. That you're funny.

...which, of course, are all qualities that lead
to a woman feeling ATTRACTION.

Of course, most men wouldn't even THINK about saying
things like this to a woman that they find attractive
because they fear REJECTION.

Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY for
thinking that these kinds of comments would trigger
an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside of a woman.

I can understand this, because when I first saw
guys being Cocky & Funny with women, I PERSONALLY
couldn't believe that it was what was creating the
ATTRACTION.

But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.

And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how
to cultivate the skill of being Cocky & Funny, you'll
notice an AMAZING difference in the way that women
respond to you.

You'll find that the more you refine and perfect
the technique, the more women will want to talk to
you, be around you, and feel the uncontrollable urges
associated with ATTRACTION.

So here's the formula again: When you're in a situation
with a woman, say things that are both Cocky & Funny.

Let's say you're talking to a woman, and she says
"Here, let me buy this round of drinks".

You might respond by saying "Look, don't think
that just because you buy me a drink that I'm going
to go home with you. I'm not that easy...".

Or maybe she mentions that she just started working
as a waitress... and you say "Well, that's a deal
breaker for me, because I need a woman who makes enough
to support the both of us so I can pursue my life-long
goal of being a house husband".

Are you with me?

These are all FUNNY and at the same time ARROGANT.

One of the exercises that I recommend is to take some
time and come up with a whole bunch of Cocky & Funny comments
that YOU can use in the most common "real world" situations
you find yourself meeting women in... and then mentally
rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind to use.

When you use this magical way of communicating
with women, you'll find that it often sparks an INSTANT
sexual tension, and sets up a perfect interaction
between you and the woman you're talking to.

It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE
that women just LOVE to engage...

It not only sets you apart from other men, but
as I mentioned, it also triggers that wonderful emotion
called ATTRACTION at the same time.

Double Bonus!

Of course, this is one part of a much bigger picture
of how to use your personality to create sexual tension
and ATTRACTION from the VERY BEGINNING of your interactions
with women.