Online Dating, Beautiful Women, And Insecurity


***QUESTION***

Hey wassup?

I have just reread your book again and I took a
look at all my online profiles that I have posted
in the past. At first I didn't want to believe what
was in the ebooks but as I thought about it more and
more I realized I was totally on the wrong path. Then
I was always wondering why no one ever responded to
my profiles so I took a look at the profiles after
gaining the knowledge from your ebook and realized
they stank with wussyness that would make girls in a
three mile radius run away fast! Well I changed my
profiles and added a lot of C & F to it and just
basically had fun with it and I can't believe the
success I have gotten from it. I am getting a bunch
of e-mails a day from girls (I have gotten more e-mail
in 2 days then I got in 4 months with my old profile).
I also have around 5 dates set up for the next three
week period!

Thanks again for all your hard work and from turning
me from a momma's boy into a real man (that virtual
slap to the face really woke me up! just don't do it
so hard next time!).

TY

PS. Just a comment I find it funny that sometimes I
will see a girl that is about an 8 or 9 and when I
talk to them for a while I find out a lot of them
see themsevles as just average or below average. Any
insight as to why some hot girls (or cold whichever)
see themselves as this when they could probably get
any guy they wanted?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Before I answer your great question about why beautiful
women see themselves as "just average" or "below average"
and what it means to you, I want to comment on your
email... and in particular, the quote:

"...Then I was always wondering why no one ever responded
to my profiles so I took a look at the profiles after
gaining the knowledge from your ebook and realized
they stank with wussyness..."

I do believe that you've coined a new term.

In the future, whenever anyone says that a particular
guy's behavior "Stanks Of Wussyness" or "Stank With
Wussyness" they will have YOU to thank.

Or stank.

Or whatever.

And I think that the reason I liked this one quote
so much is that it just plain RINGS TRUE.

Women can SMELL that thing called WUSSYNESS.

And the fact that women can actually detect the STRONG
STANK OF WUSS even through an INTERNET PROFILE says
something even MORE profound...

It says that the concept of being a WUSSY is an "INNER"
idea.

In other words, it's something that originates in
your MIND. It's a combination of beliefs, as well as
the communication of those beliefs through words,
body language, etc.

Think about that for a moment.

A woman can actually SMELL A WUSSY from an INTERNET
PROFILE ALONE.

And as soon as you changed your profile around to
get rid of the Wussyness in it, your responses
changed INSTANTLY.

So what is it about this particular set of qualities
that make up a WUSSY that women just aren't attracted
to?

Well, I really think that it all comes down to the
fact that ATTRACTION isn't based on LOGIC.

It's not a "decision".

You've heard me say that "Attraction Isn't A Choice"
probably a bazillion times now.

Just realizing that women can't "choose" who they
feel attracted to makes you also realize that there
are qualities that women DO feel attracted to AUTOMATICALLY.

On the flip side of the coin, there are many qualities
that INSTANTLY turn a woman OFF as well.

When you put many of these "anti-attraction" qualities
together, you'll usually find a Wussy.

Women KNOW that they aren't attracted to guys who
are Wussies.

And they have an amazing "WussDar" system that is
finely tuned to recognize those subtle little hints
that say "I'm A Wuss!".

Women have all kinds of little "code words" and body
language cues that they use with each other to describe
the process of NOT being attracted to a particular
guy because he acts like a Wuss.

If you see two women talking, and one is describing
a date she had with a guy that was a Wuss, it might
go something like this:

Girl #1: "Yea, he was NICE, and he was good-looking...
but when he showed up he had flowers with him... and
then before we could even get out the door he was
asking me if it was OK with me if we went to the restaurant
he chose... an hour into dinner he asked me if I thought
that the date was going OK..."

Girl #2: "Ohhh, E[Only registered and activated users can see links] That's not gonna work..."

Girl #1: "Yea, I know. Why do most guys have to act
so needy and stupid? If I wanted another girlfriend,
I'd go meet WOMEN..."

Girl #2: "So how are you going to cut him loose?"

Girl #1: "I'm just not going to call him back, and
he'll get the hint... I hope. But then again, probably
not. He'll call me every day for a week, and when I
reach him I'm going to have to make up a story about
being busy with work... you know the deal. Eventually
he'll get the hint."

Girl #2: "Why don't guys get it?"

...and on and on.

From just a few little clues, the friend KNEW that
this guy STANK OF WUSSYNESS.

From there on, it was just ASSUMED that he didn't
have a chance.

It was over.

The conversation was on to "How are you going to
get rid of him?" NATURALLY.

This is how women actually respond to Wussy behavior
and communication... INSTANTLY.

And the worst part is that once you're mentally branded
a Wussy in a woman's mind, you're in that category
FOREVER.

Getting out of the mental Wuss category is one of the
hardest things you can even TRY to do.

It's not even worth the effort.

The key is to not get into the Wuss category in the
FIRST PLACE.

And while you're in the process of not being a Wussy,
you need to make her feel ATTRACTION as well.

More on that later.

Now I want to address your question...

You asked why many attractive women see themselves as
"average" or "below average"... when they could
probably get any guy they want.

These are the kinds of questions that I think about a lot.

The crazy things that people say and do really fascinate me.

And I'm especially interested in these areas of psychology
that just don't seem to MAKE SENSE.

Attractive women get a lot of attention.

In fact, for an attractive woman, attention can actually
become like a DRUG.

I have personally known and dated some very attractive
women... models, actresses, dancers, and so on.

And I can verify that the most attractive women are
also the most INSECURE women when it comes to their
attractiveness.

Illogical?

Maybe.

But think about it this way...

If you're an unusually attractive woman, your looks
become your IDENTITY.

Everyone that meets you mentions your looks.

Every guy you date tells you how beautiful you are.

Every day, everywhere you go, you have people talking
about how you look.

But MORE importantly, the more you hear it, and the
more you think about it, the more you begin to realize
that there are OTHER women that are MORE attractive
than you.

Since "looks" is the topic that's always coming up,
you're always thinking about it.

If a woman with a bigger chest walks by, you immediately
think "maybe I'd be more attractive if I had a bigger
chest" and you feel insecure.

If a thinner woman walks by, you think that maybe you
should be thinner.

If a woman with a different color hair walks by, you
wonder if your hair is the right color.

This kind of thing triggers INSECURITY every time it
happens.

Trust me.

This kind of thing gets WORSE the MORE attractive a
woman is...

Because the most beautiful women are often MODELS...
and they get to go from one audition to the next...
and see literally hundreds and hundreds of other
"competitive" women that each have some feature that's
just a little "better" than theirs.

Now imagine what it's like to be a woman with "average"
looks.

If your looks are "average", you don't hear about
them so much.

Your looks aren't the topic of every conversation.

Your looks aren't your "identity" the way they are
for the beautiful girl.

And since you don't think about your looks as much,
and don't talk about your looks as much, you don't
feel that deep insecurity as often when an attractive
woman walks by.

Reality can be pretty weird sometimes.

It's different for each of us.

You can put a beautiful woman in a room with 100 guys
who all think she's the hottest thing they've ever
seen... but she'll still feel like "nothing special"
and like she looks horrible that evening.

All the compliments she hears will roll off her like
water rolls off a duck's back... because she'll detect
the subtle tone of Wussy, and she will be thinking
about how one of her girlfriends just got a boob job
and how insecure she feels now because guys look at
those new boobs a lot.

The reality of THIS situation is that very few women
have the "whole package".

The combination of looks, personality, emotional
stability, and intelligence is RARE.

You're going to have to date quite a few women before
you're going to find that one fantastic one that really
has it all together.

One of the things you'll notice about attractive women
is that they REALLY respond to Cocky & Funny comments...
especially about LOOKS.

They tend to "get it" faster, because you're touching
a sensitive spot.

And by the way, when you make fun of a "super hottie",
it is big-time fun for the whole family.

It instantly levels the playing field.

It says "Hey, I'm not one of the guys who is affected
by your looks... and I'm not going to act like I need
your approval" INSTANTLY.

It says "all the right things" all at the same time...
and it makes women laugh as well.

There are a LOT of different things that don't make
any "logical sense" when it comes to the world of women
and dating.

Unfortunately for most guys, these things will always
be a mystery.

For most men, the idea of being able to meet and date
as many interesting, attractive women as they want
will always be a fantasy... but never a reality.

This sucks, because it doesn't have to be that way...
you don't have to just accept your current level of
success with women and dating.

Until now, there have been almost no options when it
came to learning how to get this area of life handled...

Well, the good news is that I've spent a lot of years
now personally figuring all of this stuff out.

I've figured out how to make women feel ATTRACTION
by using body language and other communication... and
it's really not that hard.

But, like any other skill that's valuable, it's not
something that you can learn in 2 minutes.

It takes a little practice.

The GREAT news is that instead of taking several YEARS
of research, reading, and trying crazy stuff that
doesn't work like I did, you can get the benefits
of my "banging my head against the wall" research...
and go straight to the good stuff.

My Advanced Dating Techniques program is the ULTIMATE
training program for this stuff. Not only did it take
me YEARS to learn all of this stuff in the first
place, and figure it all out, but it also took me
literally HUNDREDS of hours of my time to put this
particular program together.

I really designed this thing from the beginning to
be the absolute best training available in the history
of the world on how to meet and date women.

If you read some of the feedback in these newsletters
and on the website, I think you'll find that quite a
few guys agree that it's pretty damn good.