What Women Are Looking For In A Man


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I just bought the advanced CD series & it's amazing
what a difference they make over the book. Being able
to listen on the way to work, whilst out doing chores,
etc. is cool. I can feel the confidence building inside
me, it's like my own personal coach.

The C&F doesn't come naturally to me at present so
I've taken your advice and am using the internet as
a 'woman simulator' in order to practice. I've had
mixed results so far, I think a few took the teasing
the wrong way as some of them would suddenly stop
replying.

I must be better at the C&F than I thought though.
The first time I went on this site I was chatting
to a few girls and one of them ended up giving me
her mobile and asking if we could go for coffee before
I had chance to.

Anyway my question: You suggest that a date should
simply be 'tea & stimulating conversation', which
for all of the reasons you give makes perfect sense
to me. But once I've done the tea & conversation with
this girl, do you have any suggestions for other dates
where I can come across as the 'lover' instead of the
'provider'. The only one where I wouldn't end up having
to shell out (buy her stuff) that I can think of is
a walk along the river or something, but that's rather
dependant on the weather.

Thanks for changing my life.

AIB - London, UK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, well you're welcome for the "changing your life"
thing. Glad to help.

Now, you're kind of mixing up a couple of concepts
that I never intended to "depend" on one another...

If you want to know where to take a woman for dates,
that shouldn't be confused with whether or not you
come across as a "lover" personality, and not a "provider"
personality to her.

Let me ask you something... what is a "date"?

What do you think that the purpose of a "date" is?

Now, I call my material "Double Your Dating", but
what I DON'T mean is "take women out to dinner twice
as much as you used to".

The word "Dating" is simply a word that all of us
guys understand to mean "romantic interactions with
women".

So I use it.

But if you want to have more romantic interactions
with women, that does NOT mean that you need to "take
women out on dates" in order to do it.

Are you with me?

I mean, what do couples do a year after they get
together...?

They stay home most of the time, do normal things
like go shopping, and generally behave like they did
before they met.

This whole "going out to dinner" ritual is really
an amazing concept.

It's awesome how powerful it is... and how guys really
believe that they need to do it (or similar things)
in order to get a woman's attention in a romantic way.

Here's the bottom line:

If you want a woman to think of you as a "lover",
then BE ONE.

If you want her to think of you as a provider, then
just BE ONE.

What you haven't quite realized fully yet is that
when you know how to trigger ATTRACTION in a woman,
all the "normal" rules go away.

If a woman feels that powerful emotional ATTRACTION
for you, then she'll do ANYTHING with you... just
to be in your presence and have your attention.

If you have dialed up the ATTRACTION, then all you
need to say is "come over here".

No dates required.

Now, if you buy her dinner 10 times, call her 3 times
a day, and chase her around, then it will be EXPECTED
that you continue this pattern... and provide for
her.

NOTE: If you're buying a woman dinner twice a week,
giving her flowers, calling her every day, and
basically "chasing" her, then you can be about 80%
sure that there's another guy in the picture... but
guess what? He's the one who SHE calls, and he's the
one who says "Come over later, I'm busy now"... no
dates required.

If you want to be a LOVER to a woman, then DO IT.

You don't need to wait until the third time out for
coffee or tea.

You'll learn that ATTRACTION doesn't have a timeline.

It happens VERY QUICKLY, if you know how to trigger
it... and you don't need a lot of "date ideas" once
you do.

And now that I've avoided your question for a page
or two, let me answer with this:

I often take women to do "regular" things with me.
I'll take them to the grocery store to shop with me,
out to the mall to pick things up, and down to the
bookstore to buy a book.

First, start BEING the LOVER immediately.

Then, notice how women DON'T CARE what you do together,
as long as she's with you.



***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

Just wanted to say that after reading your material,
I experienced a mental shift. I now see situations
in terms of: was I self-referenced (C & F Man) or
externally referenced (wussie boy)? It is now very
clear that success in anything comes to leaders not
followers and women hate dealing with followers. For
example look at little boys dealing with little girls
when they are playing together. They boss them around,
make them play by their rules and those girls grow
up expecting men to lead them. Just watch any John
Garfield or Lee Marvin movie. Leaders get the girl,
wussies get to be used and discarded. I've made my
choice.

Thanks David
E from Chi


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good. Now help me get the word out to the other 3
billion guys on the planet.

You're right. Women don't like men who are FOLLOWERS.

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who are FOLLOWERS.

But guess what? Most men FOLLOW anyway.

Thanks for reminding us that we need to LEAD.

Leading creates ATTRACTION. Following creates the
curious dry feeling.




***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave--

I definitely have to give it to you. You are "da shizznitt",
lol. Your DYD dvd series has really changed my entire
life.I now feel like I am in control of "My World".
I was a little hesitant about buying your product...
but I just said "What the Hell...What can I loose???"
I am military and in my spare time I am a bartender.
You know what that means... I see females out the izzass,
lol. I was working one night and a female came up
to one of my fellow bartenders to order something
and while getting her drink... she asked told him..."
all these guys are staring at me. Do you think i'm
cute?" Now normally if I were in his shoes and hadn't
learned what you taught me... I would have melted and
told her that she was the finest thing to step foot
on this base... case in point...that was what he said.
He just bent down unzipped his pants and practically
handed her his nuts. Hence, her hands being the nutcracker.
I interrupted them while he was "dazed and confused"
and told her "Actually they're looking at that big pimple
on your forehead. She stopped and turned towards me
and laughed and hit me on the arm. Then I told her
not to get mad cuz I was cuter than she. She smiled
and for some odd reason... she could not keep herself
away from the bar. I just pretended that she was one
of my friends that I tease all the time and just called
her on everything that she did. Man... I couldn't believe
that she was really eating this up!!! The other bartender
that she was talking to first, couldn't believe that I
was doing this!!! He....for some odd reason didn't GET
what was going on... It was like jets flying over his head.
And to show that his nuts belonged to her... he just kept
trying to compliment her. She just glanced at him smiled
and quickly turned her head to pay him no mind. I got her
e-mail and number and she has been like putty in my hands
for the past three months. I have to give it to you, Dave.
You da man!!! I'm not a selfish person...so I gave him
your e-mail address and hopefully he'll get your system
and realize what he's been doing wrong. I should give
him her e-mail address so that he can ask for his balls
back, lol. But... for those who have doubts about Dave's
system... I'm living proof of success.

Thanks Dave!!!

JR - Mexico


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, I think that you must have some
kind of bizarre NUT OBSESSION, dude.

And it's not right.

But hey, fortunately you're on the right side of the
"don't hand them over" equation, so everything seems
like it might be all right for you.

You've given some great examples of how to get an
attractive woman's attention, tease her, and play
with her to "spark" that initial sexual tension and
"chemistry".

Now make sure you keep it up so you're not writing
me in 3 more months with the "She used the Trojan
Horse De-Nutting Technique" on me.



***QUESTION***

Hey Man,

What has happened to women's standards? All the beautiful
babes with no neck dorks! I am a good looking guy
and I can't even get a phone number. They go out with
guys that weigh like 300 lbs and dress like slobs.
I wear nice clothes and drive a nice car and I can't
get a single date. Maybe it is where I live. In order
to get a date I will have to gain 200 lbs and have
someone break my nose so I am ugly enough for some
girl to date me. American girls suck! They have no
taste anymore!

I give up!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

No, I think that the problem is that you whine like
a whipped Biatch.

Women can smell a "victim" attitude 100 miles away,
and it IS NOT ATTRACTIVE.

Women's "standards" are just fine.

The problem isn't them, it's YOU.

Now do yourself a favor and quit ACTING like a little
girl, and DO SOMETHING about your situation.

What, do you think that all the average and ugly guys
out there who have HOT girlfriends are getting them
by being ugly?

The answer is "No, they're not".

These guys are getting the babes because they know
how to make the women feel ATTRACTION.

Trust me, I know quite a few guys who are NOT exactly
the picture of "handsome"... but these guys get a
lot of women.

Why?

Because they KNOW HOW.

Now quit whining, and go LEARN.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear Dr. D,

Just wanted to drop you a quick note. I am a 34 year
old and divorced using your E-book to learn how to
get back into the game. Since I was raised by my parents
to be a nice guy, submissive, wussy, it has been a
challenge to overcome these self-destructive traits---
but I am gaining ground every day. Also, I don't have
any natural ability for C&F. For the most part I am
quiet and reserved----so I have needed to re-train
myself in that area also. You have given me a good
start by explaining attraction and what women want.

I want to stress the importance of "practice". It's
the only way to quickly improve your inner and outer
game. What has helped me is practicing on an old girlfriend.
I am sure many of your students like me have a woman
that just won't let you go from an old relationship.
So, I have not completely ended it for sex and companionship
and she keeps me around for sex and emotional support.

Anyway----to my amazing weekend: Saturday, I went
out with the old girlfriend and busted on her and
challenged her on many issues all night. My old self
would have shut up and zoned out---not this time. I
didn't put up with any of her nonsense. It ended at
my place and we had an amazing double session. She
is now hooked more than ever even though she knows
I am seeing other people. She can't help herself.
I have triggered the attraction mechanism and more
importantly I know what I did to accomplish that.

Sunday I spent the day with a cute girl who had responded
to my internet ad. We had only been out once before.
I played the game---didn't act overly sexually interested,
just enough....I used the C&F when I could, but basically
kept cool. She offered to pay our lunch/cocktail bill.
My old self would have foolishly denied her offer---
thinking I was the man, thinking I was being chivalrous
(how foolish ;). This time I accepted without hesitation.
Once back at my place I used the start and stop technique.
I would get her hot, then I would back off. She would
stop my hand from reaching too far so I decided that
I wasn't going to push it and that tonight might not
be "the night" with her so I was very relaxed. At 10:00
she was getting ready to leave. We started making out
while saying goodbye----next thing I know, we were
in the bedroom. It was amazing. The fun lasted all
night. Today I am tired with a smile on my face. I
know it worked out because I put the proper groundwork
in place. By turning my sexual advances on and then off-----
it really got to her. Acting as if I was evaluating her...
the whole thing. Thank you for pointing me in the right
direction, I am starting to get it!!! Literally ;)

C
Fort Lauderdale, Fl


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, you really are starting to GET IT.

And you are RIGHT ON.

This stuff takes practice and real-world experience
using it before you really "get it".

Too many guys are just too damned overly-analytical,
and want to know how to do EVERYTHING before they
do ANYTHING.

I used to be this way... and it cost me a lot of time
and energy.

It's so amazing to actually get out there and SEE
results right in front of your eyes. It gets you excited
and willing to try more things... and it prepares
you for the future... for situations that are REALLY
important.

Get out there and use this stuff.

Start NOW.



***QUESTION***

Dave, What does it mean when a woman says she wants
to "work on herself" before she can have a relationship?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

The literal translation for this is:

"I DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU, BUT I DON'T KNOW
HOW TO TELL YOU WITHOUT HURTING YOUR LITTLE WUSSY
BOY GIRLIE FEELINGS."

Any of the following:

"I need time alone right now."

"I need to find me first."

"Let's just be friends for now."

...etc. mean:

"I DON'T FEEL ATTRACTION."

That's the bottom line.

The problem is YOU, not HER.

Don't be surprised if this same girl either IS or
STARTS dating another guy seriously soon.

If you're hearing this kind of thing often, then you
need to take it as a sign that you're not triggering
ATTRACTION inside of women... and, more importantly,
that you need to LEARN HOW.

I recommend my Advanced Dating Techniques Program.

This will help eliminate these types of comments from
women once and for all.

Here, let me brag for a minute...

I'm sitting here thinking about it, and I can't remember
a woman saying one of these things to me in YEARS.



***QUESTION***

Mr. Dave!

You are the man! I have been getting your emails for
about 8 months now I believe and have read your book!
Just yesterday I was in the store looking at CD's
and I noticed these two beautiful girls walking around
and they would constantly look over towards me. As
I wandered around the store more I noticed that they
seemed to always show up wherever I was. So I stopped
them and asked the girl that I was more attracted to
"Excuse me but i'm going to have to ask you to stop
stalking me." She looked at her friend like 'What is
this boy talking about' and then she asked me for
my name. I immediately answered "Do you really think
i'm just going to give my name out to a stalker?" once
again she looked like she couldn't believe I was talking
to her this way. We talked about five more minutes and
then I told her I had to go. She asked me if I wanted
her number so we could continue the conversation. I
pretended to think about it and then told her "I'm sorry
but I'm just going to be way too busy to find time to
call you. So If you promise to stop stalking me i'll
give you my number and you can try and catch me when
I have a few minutes of free time to talk." She eagerly
took my number and when I got home about an hour later
she had already left a message on my machine to see
if I could go out with her this weekend!

I was so happy because I was curious too see if I
reversed the three minute phone number to give away
my number instead of getting hers would work and it
did! Anyway on to my question. As I stated this girl
was with a friend at the store who was also very attractive
and was there the whole time I was hitting up her friend.
Is there anyway in these situations where you can get
both girls numbers?

AF- AK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice "reverse stalker" move.

I say things like this to women all the time, and
they generally love it.

To answer your question, YES, there's an easy way
to get both girls' phone numbers.

ASK.

Then call and ask them BOTH to come join you for a
cup of tea.

Kill two birds with one stone.

Then, over tea you can decide which one you like more.

I've had friends who have been in similar situations
report back that sometimes both women will like you...
and EACH OTHER as well.

I mean, what do you have to lose? 2 minutes of getting
a phone number?

Look, your question was based in fear.

Fear that you'd offend one or both of the women, and
then lose everything.

The fact is that you never HAD anything.

A phone number is easy to get. If you feel like asking
both women for their numbers, do it. If you feel like
asking them both to join you for tea, do it.

You get to make the rules.




***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

I received your DVD series about a month ago and have
watched it in its entirety a few times. I've noticed
a strange circumstance since then, similar to what
Napoleon Hill says about how when you choose a definite
major purpose in life, ways and means of attaining
that purpose seem to magically appear to you. When
I've been in situations where I wasn't actually interacting
with a woman and laying on the C&F, they've still
been acting attracted to me despite the fact that I
consciously did NOTHING in these situations. For example:

- A bar/restaurant I hit about once a week has a very
hot waitress staff, and one in particular is a Pam
Anderson clone who's always being stared at and complimented
by all the wussy guys. She's been working at least
a dozen times that I've been in there but has never
acted like she even noticed me until the last time
(since I've watched the DVDs) and she kept looking
at me, over and over again, despite the fact that I
did NOTHING different. Finally I gave her the "wrinkled
brow" suspicious look and she got all self-conscious,
said "what?" and I came right back with "if you're
gonna be that forward and flirty with me you could've
at least done your hair up a little better" and then
it was ON!

- I met some friends for happy hour and a very hot
chick was sitting at a table holding some guy's hand.
Every other guy in the place was staring at her and
she was so hot that I even overheard some of the waitresses
trashing her. The thing is, I had been watching the
DVDs that same day and came walking in with a particularly
cocky swagger and the wrinkled brow and she stared
me down the whole way in. Then she would not stop looking
over at me while she was holding this dude's hand,
he was obviously a Wussy since he saw what was going
on and did nothing (I guess he's the guy she uses for
free dinners while she's banging the real men). At one
point she even took the long way to the bathroom to walk
by me and flirt but with the Wussy watching there was
no op to get the info... hopefully I run into her again.

It's obvious that just watching the DVD series gives
one an aura of confidence, since I did nothing in these
situations but show up. Kinda like reading Comedy
Writing Secrets then suddenly being funnier without
actually thinking about it and trying. Simply watching
and learning this material opens doors for you without
trying!

FR
Phoenix


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, you're tapping into the power of the mind here.

One of the BIG benefits of learning all of the material
that I teach in my programs is the changes that naturally
occur inside your mind.

Once you see things differently, you begin to BEHAVE
differently as well. And it will happen automatically.

Now, I don't mean to sound new-agey here, but this
is the reality of the situation.

Women can pick up on subtle body language that most
men don't even know EXISTS.

When you start "mentally rehearsing" some of the things
you learn from my programs, you will automatically
act differently when you're in future situations with
women.

Great job, and keep it up.

And make sure you send in some future Success Stories,
as I'm sure you're going to have many.




***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Blah blah blah, I shamelessly compliment you, you
feel like a deity... there we're done.

Your book would be worth it's weight in gold, even
if it were made of lead! I stumbled onto your site
by accident. A month before, I was Let's Just BeFriended
for being "too nice", and this was with an UGLY thing
too! eh... I was desperate. I actually laughed at those
"losers" for getting slapped on the arm and called
a**hole, and later, I thought the chicks were idiots for
dating them!! I'm better now. After reading your book
it was like the heavens were parted and g*d HIMself
bitch slapped the wuss right out of me! Thanks.

Not only am I getting slapped, bitten, chewed on,
and fought over, I am LOVING it too! Just the other
day I was in a bookstore, and an old friend (read "hot
chick") of mine came in, I thought, 'hey I am here
just being my new self, lets try something', so I walked
over to her, said hi, and then said "I didn't expect
to see a beautiful young woman here" she said "aww that's
so sweet" (read "you wussy") but then I did something
that has been working really well for me, I busted
on her. I said "maybe I still will" Slap on arm, AND
big smile. She was wearing this rather large skirt
with ruffles, so I said "wow... I didn't know the parachute
look was still in" while obviously staring at it. Another
slap on arm, this time laughing. Later she asked if
I got my hair cut (I hadn't) she said it "whatever it
is, its really attractive." There is this coffee shop
in the store, so we had "stimulating conversation" a
little while went by, and she asked me to go to her
car with her, so she could "show me a new piece of art."
well needless to say, we are still "appreciating art"
together, and its been two months!

So the question is... Will complimenting the ladies
then busting on whatever I just complimented work
the same as if not complimenting at all?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, one of my favorites...

Giving a woman a compliment, then putting a backhanded
twist on it.

"Wow, your shoes are cute. Did you buy them new?"

"Your hair is pretty. Did your mom do it for you?"

"Nice car. If you're homeless."

Pick up any modern men's magazine and you'll get a
bunch of good ideas for this type of thing.

Cocky & Funny can be very powerful once you learn
how to use it.

Great example, and thank you.



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I have been reading your emails and have purchased
your ebook and have read and studied from both. I
would 'study' areas I felt I was weak in or would
that be wussy in, to improve, naturally, but would
read everything for as much knowledge as I could absorb.
Well, I have a success story but with a slight twist
to it. The twist is my success was due to playing
off of 2 other guys' failures.

I went to a club in a part of town I normally do not
go to. Not that it is a bad part of town I just never
thought of going there. I went by myself, so on my
own, no one for moral support, in a place I have never
been before. Talk about giving your ideas the acid
test, this was going to be it. I was looking down
at the dance floor getting into the music and noticed
behind me two girls sitting at a table. I then noticed
2 guys approach and one started to talk to one of the
girls. The other guy was just standing there looking
at girl #2 trying to get up the nerve to say something,
from what I could tell, since I was that way myself in
a not so distant past. I just turned away and didn't
pay much attention but after 10 mins or so the same guy
talking to girl #1 is not making any headway. Guy 2 still
had his wuss game going so no change there. I decided
to ask girl # 2 to dance but wanted to get her attention
and interest, as well. So I leaned over and said, "While
that guy is trying to hustle your friend, whom, I might
he is not doing very well, would you like to dance?"
Well, this girl just cracked up laughing, she did not
want to dance but did want to talk more. She went on
to say that there is nothing he could say or do at this
point to make her want to dance or go out with him. He
just doesn't get it, she said. I went on to say I know
it is crowded and a bit loud here but one should understand
NO easy enough. She agreed and went on to mention how
much of a loser his friend is just standing there. I
then remembered a statement someone used in an email
of yours and thought I would use it myself. I said to
girl #2 "what's that smell, do you smell that?" She
replies, "What smell?" I said, "The smell of desperation."
Well, Dave, that girl laughed so hard she fell out of
her chair. I helped her up and when she told me she had
to tell her girl friend that and when she leaned over
to talk to her I just turned away and went back to looking
at the people dancing.

After a bit this girl came up to me and said look
at those losers they are just standing on the dance
floor while people are dancing around them. They did
look pretty pathetic. We talked a bit and I asked
her name but I did not quite understand it since she
was Latin and had a Latin name I could not make out
what she said, what with all the loud music and noise.
Just then some friends of hers and her girl friend's
came in and she started to talk to them so again I
just turned away and watched people on the dance floor.
After a bit she came back and grabbed my arm and said
come on I want to introduce you to my friends. After
she introduces everyone to me I turn to her and ask
what was your name again? Is it ludicrous? She just
busted up laughing again and tried to tell me her name
again. By now, she is holding my hand and we started
dancing right there. We talked a bit and I told her
she has to write her name down so I can pronounce correctly
when I call her. She say's, "Call me?" I said, "Yes,
since you are writing your name down you might as well
give me your number. How else am I going to call you?
Oh, and if you have email you might as well give me
that also."

She said, that it was cool meeting me and gave me
a hug and kiss. She then went back to her friends
and I just turned away and called it a night.

It may not have been nice to use the 2 guys wuss behavior
to my advantage but it worked.

N from Miami Beach


>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL... so you went off secretly to a bar alone...
hoping that no one would see you testing the materials
out for yourself... lol.

Yea, sometimes it's rough when other guys act like
Wussy Jackasses...

But hey, it makes your life easier and more fun!

So what the hell, right?

I have to say, one of my personal favorite things
to do with women I've just met is make fun of how
other guys are acting.

It's particularly fun in these bar-type situations,
where you can watch one interaction after another.

Most guys suck at approaching women, and it makes
for great humor and conversation.

Of course, talking about how terrible other guys are
INSTANTLY separates you from the herd, and kind of
puts you in the "NON-WUSS" category all by itself.

Another personal favorite of mine is to tell a girl
that she should get together with one of the guys
that is acting like a jackass.

"I think you and that Wuss-Boy over there would make
a cute couple. He looks like he needs a mom like you
to tell him what to do..." etc.

You've done a great job here, now keep it up.

And thanks for the great example.

Always remember in these situations that a big scoop
of COCKY & FUNNY will make things go well.