What To Say To Women, How To Tease Them


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are the Man! It took me about a month of reading
and re-reading your book. I am (was) very shy. I really
think it was more a lack of self confidence than shy.
I think I was using the word shy because I didn't
want to admit or didn't understand that it was a lack
of self confidence. I set a target date of when I was
going to let my inhibitions go and put my (your) plan
to work. I got more email addresses and phone numbers
in 3 hours than I got in 3 years. Just felt compelled
to write and say Thanks.

Hope to see you in NY
E.M. in Va.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love letters like this one. Good for you!

It sounds to me like the process of getting this area
of your life handled has you pretty excited. Let it
spill over into the other areas of your life.

Great job!


***COMMENT FROM WOMAN***

Dear David,

Remember the woman that had a friend that wanted
to slap the sh** out of you - you know, the crack
pipe chick? That woman was right about one thing -
someone needs to get slapped.

She does and so do all of her milk toast, clueless
and probably dog-ugly friends! How in the world did
she get "lesbian" twisted into all of that? I read
the e-mail for crying out loud, and it sounds to me
like this girl's in a slump that makes the Devil Rays
look like World Series contenders.

Injure a woman's delicate psyche? Give me a break.
I hope you guys out there don't believe a word of this
girl's whiny crap. If your girlfriends agree with her,
I hope you don't mind turning squishy and you better
find a good recipe for strawberry daiquiris and start
planning for a life filled with tupperware parties and
purse shopping.

Let me set all of you guys straight who might still
possibly be on the fence at this point. Get David's
book. I haven't read it yet - I'm still crackin' up
over the newsletter. I'm an attractive woman architect
who works in a man's world and would have it no other
way! I'm athletic, but still feminine. I'm pretty
conservative and don't cuss (anymore) so I'm proof
that it's not just the rough women that get turned
on by the sport of a challenging male. David's right
- I have a lot of male friends and most of them want
to be more than friends. I could never put my finger
on it before I started reading David's newsletters -
they were nice and I've certainly dated guys that weren't
nearly as good looking as them, but it's clear to me
now. My guy friends are wusses. Cocky + funny = SEXY!
Don't ask me why, just do it. I wish more of you would.

By the way, David, the chicks out here that read
(and appreciate) your newsletter, need a formula, too.

Sincerely,

ks in Kansas City


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, WHY THE HELL DIDN'T YOU INCLUDE
YOUR PHONE NUMBER?

I was just thinking to myself:

"You know, it sure would be great to meet an athletic,
feminine woman with a good job... maybe an architect
or something."

I don't know about the conservative, no cussing thing...
maybe I could adapt.

But to my credit, I'm NOT squishy, I have NO IDEA
how to make a strawberry daiquiri, and I hate purse
shopping. I do, however like to host an occasional
tupperware party.

Think about it and get back to me.

Oh, back to your comments...

Thank you for writing in and providing another perspective.
I wish that more women would be as open and honest
about what attracts them.

I personally think that women like you who have their
lives together are too busy ENJOYING life to take
the time out to teach the mass of WUSS-BAG men out
there how to stop with the purse shopping and tupperware.

Thanks again for your email... I love sharp, honest
women.



***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey, I've been receiving your emails for awhile, and
have been thinking, does this stuff work on guys as
well? I'm an attractive 18 yr old, and I don't often
have problems attracting males attention, but that's
about it. I don't often get approached in clubs/bars,
just looked at from afar. Do guys think woman are
promiscuous etc if they make the first move? I mean
does that kind of confidence in a woman scare men
off? A little help would be most appreciated!

Ta!

JD
New Zealand


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, now I've got attractive 18 year old women who
are trying to figure out how to get men to talk to
them.

IS ANYONE OUT THERE LISTENING?

I've actually met MANY women who say that they either
aren't approached often, or when they are it's the
same old lame, boring stuff time after time...

"Can I take you out sometime?"

"So you probably have a boyfriend, right?"

Or guys just watch with the "I wish I wasn't such
a total and complete WUSSY because you're very attractive
and I'd give one of my front teeth in exchange for
just one chance to talk to you" look.

Ugh.

In any event, YES, this stuff works on guys. In fact,
it works on just about everyone. Damn shame you even
need to ask.


***QUESTION***

Hi David!

I just broke with my wife of six years. So I磎 starting
the game again. I went to a club this past weekend
and saw a very nice looking girl. She was looking
at me a lot. So I waited around ten minutes and then
approach and asked her, "Are you shy or something?"
She said, Why? And I told her "Because I've been
standing here for around ten minutes and you still
haven't said hi to me." As you can imagine she burst
laughing. So I said, Hey, I'm glad you know how to
laugh. She said, So, is this the way you go out
meeting girls. I said, Nah, it's that every time I
go to some place that have girls present they all
seem to get very shy around me, since I'm such a great
looking, sexy man, AS you can see. (Said with a wink).

She kind of blush and smile. We talk for around ten
minutes and I then said, Well, let me see if I can
find my friends around here, It was a pleasure talking
to you. When I was leaving I did your e-mail close
and it ran smoothly. She put her phone number too
and a note that said, "No, I'm not shy, call me soon,
C."

E.Q. From Puerto Rico

PS. In a recent mailbag there was a guy who used
the c&f routine with his ex wife as practice and it
worked to get her interested in him again. I was wondering
what stuff he told her and how he did it. I'm very
interested to know his technique to see if I can get
my ex wife interested in me again.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I LOVE the story. That's pure gold.

If you're reading this right now and you want a KILLER
example of Cocky and Funny, read this about 25 times.

As for your ex, I don't know what the specifics were,
but I will tell you this much:

After you've been in a relationship with someone and
acted like a WUSSY for many years, it makes a HUGE
impression when you stop it and start busting balls.

You know the formula, now think up some techniques.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, You're going to luv this one....bought your
book and like a kid in a candy store was eager to
prove it out....

I'm on this date with a 9/10 who selected this outside
Italian Cafe and insisted that it was her turn to
pay. Well, I started busted on her from the time i
sat down. I enjoyed myself immensely as i had NO expectations
and therefore could not be disappointed. I slipped
my AMEX card to the waiter without her noticing and
when the eqchay comes, she looks at me and says:
It was my turn to pay....if you don't let me pay
...I'm not going out with you anymore (serious look).

My response: (serious look back) If i let you pay what
do i get in return?

Her Response: We're going back to your car and I'm going
to give you a BJ like you've never had and you don't even
have to worry about making a mess cause i swallow.

My Response: (in my mind...holy sh** this stuff really
works...well lets turn it up a little..i'm enjoying
this..i'm a natural teaser) No, lets be friends
first...(inside hahaha ...I could tell i was messing
her up real good)

Her Response: Nothing (i believe she was in shock)

My response: Now If you say please, i'll let you pay.....

Her Response: Please...Please... (so i let her pay)

Next Day: I receive an email from her saying that
she likes me even more than ever before. Talk about
amplifying the attraction and anticipation.....I'll
do her when i decide....hehehe...for now we're friends.....

Thanks Good Buddy

K

Toronto, Canada


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I'd say that you're starting to get it.

If you keep this up, you're going to have this poor
woman camping outside your door!

It's all about amplifying the attraction and the
anticipation, and I'm glad you understand what the
heck that means.

This is another stellar example of Cocky and Funny
in action... combined with some other more advanced
techniques. Nice.


***QUESTION***

Dave-

Your material does a great job bringing to the masses
what are innate qualities in the naturally-successful-with-women
types. Your book is almost a study of human behavior,
like something Dale Carnegie would write (I doubt he
was as successful with women though). Anyway, I have
a problem with one half of the magic formula, the 'cocky'
part. I've always had success with deadpan-style humor,
with no facial expression whatsoever, and most of the
time people can't tell if I'm being funny or not based
on my expression. This is where I hit my problem: if
I make a cocky/funny type comment, I'm afraid I'll
come off as arrogant if I don't give a smile or something.
But in your book it says something along the lines of
things being funnier if it's difficult to tell if you're
joking. So my question is: Is it okay to smile while
being cocky and funny and busting on girls? Or should
I keep a straight face all the time? I'm not sure if
this email makes any sense, but I think you'll be able
to figure it out. Great stuff, and hurry up with the
next book!

BW

Seattle


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here's the deal... when you're being Cocky and Funny,
you must give up your fear of coming across as overly
arrogant. The secret lies within the FUNNY ingredient
of the formula.

A great model for Cocky and Funny is Triumph the Insult
Comic Dog. If you haven't seen him, go search online
and find his Star Wars video clip. You'll laugh until
you cry...

Then, go find the Bon Jovi clip. Another masterpiece.

You'll notice that Triumph is RUTHLESS with the sarcastic
comments... but THEY'RE ALL FUNNY.

And when he feels like he may have gone over the top,
he might throw in an "I kid, I kid". It's rare, but
he does do it on occasion.

If you feel like your comment might have been taken
too seriously, try a "sly smile". It's a combination
of squinting your eyes a little, pursing your lips,
and doing a slight half-mouthed smile. It's a nice
touch.

In any event, you need to get over your fears, and
get out there and do it! You'll find the balance.



***QUESTION***

David:

I have been using the techniques like C&F and have
had a huge success. Honest to God, i now have several
girls on the ropes, and i have the luxury of choosing
my choice. It is wonderful. You are a genius. (i figured
your ego needed a little boost)

Now i have a situation on my hands. There is a new
girl at my workplace, who is very attractive and funny.
We get along great. The other day i told her about
a concert that i am going to and she begged me, not
just begged but pleaded with me to get her a ticket.
Then within the next 5 minutes she was asking me for
my number and email address. That is right asking me.
I made a smart remark along the lines of "I've only
been training you for 3 days and you are already hitting
on me, damn that has to be a new record...(dramatic
pause) Most girls only take a couple of minutes to
see my un-resistable charm." I realize it isn't the
greatest line ever but it worked. She was all over it.
And retorted with "I always was the stubborn one."
So now she is emailing me, and calling me and always
talking to me and flirting with me at work. So far
so good, here is where the problem kicks in. The other
night i am walking out from work and locking the building
and she looks over rolls her eyes, and sighs that her
boyfriend is here to pick her up. the next day she
came to work and was telling me that she and her boyfriend
are going to be breaking up soon and she doesn't know
when. What do i do? I mean to me all the signs are
there, how do i field this one? Do i even DARE field
this one? HELP

n.s ND


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, two rules of thumb:

1. Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

2. Avoid women who are involved.

Why? Because it's usually just plain short-sighted
to do these things.

Some boyfriends are jealous and crazy, and if a workplace
romance goes bad (which they usually do), then it
can create all kinds of weird vibes. Trust me.

I have to comment, though... you're technique and
flirting is FANTASTIC. You're really onto something
with this line of humor. I love it.


***QUESTION***

I may be a little skeptical, but I am 37 yrs old
and have been divorced for 7 yrs. Although I have
been told many times that I am an attractive guy I
have had one date in the last 3 years, and I think
it is because I am also overweight. I am 6'1" and
weigh around 340 lbs. I am convinced that women these
days are not attracted to big guys like myself. I
am also one of those "nice guys". Do you really think
that this cocky funny attitude that I have been reading
about would really work for a guy like me? I am willing
to try anything at this point

D.E.
Scranton (Pa.)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I think it would DEFINITELY work for you. In
fact, I think it will work for anyone who applies
themselves and figures it out.

We each have our own particular situation in life.
No two are the same.

Some guys are rich and look like Brad Pitt, some guys
are older and gray, some are overweight, some are
bald, and some are inexperienced.

We each have our own strengths, weaknesses, and particular
challenges in life.

This is one of the great things about being alive.
We get a particular hand dealt to us, and it's one
of the great joys in life to figure out how to best
play it.

Honestly, from the way you explained yourself, I think
that you're unhappy with your weight. In other words,
it sounds to me like you've got MENTAL limitations
and self-image issues... so simple techniques alone
probably aren't going to solve your whole problem.

I'll bet that if you start working on your weight,
while at the SAME TIME practicing the techniques you've
learned here with women, the COMBINATION will yield
better results.

When you improve two or more areas of your life at
the same time, you'll find that you often have far
better than just twice the results. But try to solve
problems at the root, and not just at the branch level
alone.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Wanted to let you know a technique I've come up with
that combines two points you've made in the past:

1) You can create attraction with contrast (e.g. busting
on her verbally while your actions are gentlemanly)
2) Don't dip your pen in the company ink

So I use the hotties at work as target practice, honing
my game. BUT - I tone it down a bit and always do
really nice things for them, like if they need someone
to carry a box or open a drawer. So now they think
I'm kind of attractive, but also a bit of a wuss boy:
not attractive enough for THEM to date (keeping me out
of trouble at work), but PERFECT for a friend of theirs.
Hotties hang with hotties, and so far I've been set
up with three fiiiiiine young ladies this way (note:
it helps to work for a big company so you have a good
selection and distance between parties). Now, the friend
has heard that I'm a nice guy, so she's a little leery
going into it - then WHAM! I bust out as the Full Jedi
Master. Once again, contrast added to c+f. (As one said,
"I heard you were kind of cute, but she didn't tell me
how hot you really are!" For the record, I'm slightly
above average.) So far I'm 3-for-3 scoring major action
on date one. I'm keeping it cool, because there is the
2nd-hand work connection, so it can be a little tricky,
but that's part of the fun. I let NO ONE get too close
too soon, and things continue hot 'n' heavy at MY pace,
and everyone's happy. I don't know if this will work
for everyone, but it's sure worked for me. You rock!!!

M.B.
Chicago


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great points.

Attractive women know other attractive women.

And practicing on women at work is great! You can
also practice on waitresses that work at restaurants
you frequent, hostesses/receptionists at places you
go often, etc.

Women LOVE to have fun, chemically-charged interactions
with men... even if it's not leading to anything.
So do practice whenever you can.


***QUESTION***

Okay....i bought the book, i read it and re-read it
and re-read it. I had always been funny but a lot
had been self-deprecating or witticisms that were
hysterical but required women to think and make the
leap from A to B. So, based on your book, I changed
my ways. I added "C" to my "F". Now, I'm a Lindy
Hop Swing dancer. I dance at the clubs 4 times a week.
go to workshops. I own instructional tapes. I listen
to swing music constantly. I even dream I'm dancing
sometimes. So, when I go to a club i'm not just going
to meet women but also because i love dancing Lindy
Hop. IT WORKS!!!

Before I ask my question, here's my success story.
After reading all the e-mails over and over and the
book over and over, i made it a point to be C&F even
when i'm not interested. One girl I asked to dance
at a club said she had to leave but "do you come here
often?" she asked. I told her that we only knew each
other for a few minutes and ALREADY she was trying
to pick me up. I didn't mind, i said, but she should
use a more original line. Another girl I danced with
messed up as she was dancing and her hand touched my
ass by mistake. I spent the rest of the dance accusing
her of trying to grab my ass because she liked it.
(her e-mail i got but i messed up the next bridge).
But the clincher in my mind that C&F works is this:
I take a 3-hour dance class once a week and it usually
has the same people. One is this cute 19-year old.
She's not my type and i'm not interested, but i still
employ C&F whenever i see her, for practice. Well,
this week out of the blue she says "I was talking to
[Bob] about you the other day." Oh yeah? what did
you say? i ask "I told him I like you because you're
a smart-ass." My jaw practically dropped. I maintained
composure while on the inside i was screaming "HOLY
SH**!! THIS STUFF WORKS". "smart-ass" was obviously
"C&F". So, thank you and i plan to continue using
this. MY QUESTION!! So, here's the thing. Dancing this
much is a blessing and a curse. A lot of women want
to dance with me, but they ONLY want to dance (i've
gotten quite good). Plus, i'm into the dancing so i'll
dance with several different women a night, and most
likely each women multiple times. How do I use C&F in
these situations when A) Unless it's a slow song, you
don't really have the opp to talk DURING the dance
B) If I get an e-mail/number, i'm still gonna be at the
club the rest of the night. Do I ask her to dance again?
or do i ignore her? What if she asks ME to dance again?
C) If I ignore her, i'm gonna see her as i walk around
looking for dance partners throughout the night, do
i say anything as we pass by? do i even smile at her?
D) Can I use C&F on multiple women throughout the
night and get more than one e-mail or is that a bad
idea? If dancing were a means to an end for me, it might
be easier, but i'm really into this. My job is just a
means for me to be able to go dancing (that's how into
it i am). I know that I've got a potential gold mine
at my feet since I dance. I've heard that "if you can
dance you can get any woman you want." Well, I couldn't,
but i'm only now starting to see how i can thanks to
C&F. But it's only a beginning. Please help!!


G.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You've gone over your one question limit, but I'm
going to give you a great idea anyway.

First off, making jokes about a woman trying to pick
you up, not being that easy, being offended that she
used such a cheap line, etc. is GREAT stuff.

Here's the idea:

If I were you, I'd learn how to be Cocky and Funny
WITHOUT SAYING A WORD. If you're a great dancer, then
I'm SURE you can come up with 100 ways.

Maybe you could notice mistakes that a girl is making,
then imitate them over and over while keeping a look
on your face of "Look at how cool I am".

Maybe you could incorporate some bizarre dance steps
into a dance, then insinuate that she's dancing that
way.

One thing I like to do is MIRROR a woman, then EXAGGERATE
some part of what she's doing.

If she has good posture, I might sit up EXTRA straight
and say "You're slumping".

Cocky and Funny isn't just a verbal thing.

Ohhh... now I'm letting the cat out of the bag.

By the way, if you're reading this right now and you've
got some good examples of non-verbal Cocky and Funny,
write me an email. Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Your insight into women and how to attract them is
dead-on. Being cocky and funny works. Upon adopting
your approach, my dating life improved dramatically:
I went from dating one woman last year to dating 10
women in three months at the beginning of this year.

While dating is fun, like most guys, I eventually
find one that I like and want to pursue it further,
i.e. become more serious. The problem I've discovered
is that a lot of women in the age group I date (27-33)
are resistant to this due to the residual pain they
carry with them (the proverbial "baggage") from previous
failed relationships or marriages. Rather than take
a risk by pursuing a relationship, they prevent it from
progressing any further to avoid any emotional pain that
might result if it fails.

Is this a common problem men my age (late '20s, early
'30s) experience (and should continue to expect to
experience in the dating world), or am I just being a
wuss and need to get over it by dating younger women
with less baggage? Is there a way to employ the C&F
routine to MAKE these women overcome their indecision
and want to be with you?

LOL,

B


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, as much as I avoid "Relationship" questions,
I just have to comment on this one.

First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer
to be in a relationship with a great woman (over being
single).

The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing
men...

If you REALLY want to make a women become attached
to you, then you might want to try a paradoxical move...

Stop looking for a relationship.

If you communicate that you want a relationship, the
natural response is going to be for a woman to play
Hard To Get.

If YOU do the playing of the Hard To Get, and you
HOLD OFF on showing the "relationship" level of interest,
you'll find that the woman will pursue the relationship
with YOU.

Think about it.



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I like your newsletter and I really enjoyed your books.
I have one problem though. My sister, who is a socialite
and seems to have a ton of really attractive friends,
has this one friend. She's one of my sister's best
friends and is my age. The woman is incredible...definitely
a 9 or 10. She's got this really sweet personality,
but also goofy at the same time. I know she's dated
pretty boy models and NHL hockey players before, but
I know she's not too superficial inside, since she
broke things off with them after she was unhappy. So
even though I'm probably a 6 or 7, I think I may have
a shot, as I've heard she's recently single. Anyway,
my problem is that I have absolutely nothing I can
bust on her about. I don't know her well enough to
rag on those Ex bfs or anything. Most of our conversations
revolve around our mutual admiration for my cat....
So any past encounters we've had have been in 'wuss'
mode. What would be your approach to this situation?

Thanks,

C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Say what?

You have "absolutely nothing" you can bust on her
about?

You really need to get a couple of books on comedy,
my man.

What color hair does she have? If it's blonde, learn
some blonde jokes... if it's brunette, learn some
brunette jokes.

Is she tall? Bust on her height.

Is she short? Bust on her vertically challenged-ness.

And by the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH A CAT?

Don't even get me started on the jokes you can make
about her being more interested in the pussy than
in you. I could write a book of lesbian jokes based
on your one-paragraph email alone... and I've never
even met this girl myself.

Are you starting to get the picture?


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I bought your book and I have been able to successfully
use your method.

Last knight I picked up this girl at a lounge by accusing
her of being a liar. I struck up a conversation and
started doing the small talk thing (no wuss topics).
I then ask her about her age, she leaned over and
whispered in my ear that she was 20 years old. I heard
her loud and clear. But when she turned her attention
elsewhere I ask one of her friends that she was with
(who was also very hot) If the girl I was speaking to
was really 26 years old, (all at the same time giving
of the impression that I wasn't really convinced)
Surprised she turned to her friend saying "You told
him you're 26?". I then of course accused lying so
that she could have a better chance of hooking up
with me. I then proceed to tell her how often girls
do this to me and how she would have a much better
chance with me by simply being herself. The boys at
this point were cracking up. This was all done in good
fun and in a FUNNY COCKY way, the girls knew I was
joking but at the same time they were not 100% sure,
this really played on their curiosity. My Question,
Should I make eye contact with a girl before talking
to her or should I just make her feel like she doesn't
exist first and then proceed to hitting on her? Also
is it bad to stand at the bar and check out the women?
Does this make you seem needy? In other words what's
the best way of working the room before I start to
talk.

thanks. CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:


Another masterpiece of Cocky and Funny. This is great...
I can feel more and more guys are getting it.

And about eye contact.

Eye contact is VERY powerful.

I recommend that if you make eye contact with a woman
that you keep it until SHE looks away. This is a great
exercise, by the way. Just go out and make eye contact
with as many women as you can... and keep it until
they look away.

If you're already talking to a woman, you're going
to have to work with the situation.

In some situations, you're going to want to be aloof,
and in some you're going to want to be intense.

Just remember not to look away because you're nervous
or afraid. Women can detect weakness very quickly,
and they turn off like a light switch when they do.

If you want to "check out women", just make sure you
don't look like a looser that has no life and is
planning to use the images you're taking in for future
solo fantasy role play.

Don't look desperate.

Women are turned off by guys who have that "I'm not
worthy" look... and they're turned ON by guys who
have that "You are interesting to me, but not so much
so that I'd give blood just to talk to you" look.


***QUESTION***

OK, Dave, what's wrong? Why won't you put my letters
in your mailbag? I NEED HELP!!!! But, yet, you
refuse to help me! Your stuff makes sense, yet it
seems impossible to use. And so, I get all depressed
because what you say makes me feel like a loser. I
have zero confidence in myself and I can't make anyone
laugh. I am 20 years old. I have never had a real
girlfriend. I don't have any friends. My 5 guys I
am forced to live with are not friends (but we get
along fine). They all get girls, but won't help me.
They all make me feel like a complete loser indirectly.
Just like you do. Oh, using C&F is totally unnatural
as hell for me, and I could never use it enough to
be very successful. But, I also realize being the
nice guy and buying stuff for women is also unnatural
for me. I NEVER flirt. I NEVER compliment women for
any reason whatsoever. I NEVER buy women gifts. I do,
however, pay for women on dates (which I haven't been
on any is 18 months). I can't make myself talk to
girls unless I have a reason other than because I wanna
date them. I can't ask women out on dates. I am convinced
I will be rejected, so I don't even try. Even when I
do talk to women, I can't make it move on to the next
level. Women never even become my friends! They never
move beyond acquaintance level. It just offends me
VERY much that you won't even attempt to give ME personal
advice!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to use my psychic powers to guess the correct
spelling of your name.

Keep in mind, I don't even know your name, so getting
the spelling correct could be considered to be basically
impossible.

Oh, I'm getting something...

W...

U...

S...

S...

Y...

Wow, what an unusual name. I don't recall ever meeting
a guy with that name before.

Oh, wait a minute... maybe I HAVE met a guy or two
with that name.

Hey, in fact, I've met a LOT of guys with names like
yours.

OK, enough of the obvious. Let's talk action.

You really need to get over your victim mentality,
man. Read some self-help books, do some visualization
and affirmation exercises... maybe go to a seminar
or ten.

Before you're going to have ANY success with women,
you're going to need to overcome your negative view
of reality and life.

Women HATE all of the qualities you're demonstrating
right now. Qualities like:

-Negativity
-Pessimism
-Whiny-ness
-Victim Minded

Get the picture?

I'm giving you some tough love here, but you sound
like you really need it. Women (and people in general)
don't want to help those who whine and complain. Start
working on yourself, and keep going until you begin
to find techniques that make you feel more secure,
stable and self-sufficient.

It's probably going to take a pretty big commitment,
but I believe that anyone can get to the next level
if they really want to.


***COMMENT***

Dear Dave:

I've noticed a lot of emails lately (and I hear this
from my friends all the time): "This stuff is great,
and it attracts women, but when do you just get to
be yourself?" You reply to these emails something like
this: "Never. Make the C&F changes permanent." My
contribution is an analogy that might help the guys
who resist this advice see the error of your ways:

Let's say that you meet a beautiful, intelligent,
and above all, SEXY woman. You start going out with
her and loving it. Suddenly, though, as she gets comfortable
with the relationship, she stops dressing sexy and
wears only jogging outfits. She stops working and
starts over-eating; soon she's fat. To top this off,
she doesn't feel the need to "impress" you anymore
and frankly talks about her health problems, etc.
(her conversations begin to get annoying). She even
farts and belches around you.

The point of this is, the things that were attracting
you to her all stopped as she got comfortable with
the relationship. She feels so "comfortable" that
she doesn't feel the need to exert any effort in keeping
you attracted.

See the parallel? It's obvious to me, but let me explain
for the benefit of the thick-headed: When you stop
doing the things that attracted her to you, you are
exactly like the hottie that lets herself go. The
degree to which you "let yourself go" will determine
whether or not she dumps you or starts cheating on
you.

Hope this helps.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I think I'm going to hire all the guys who
wrote in this week and just let them write these newsletters
from now on.

What do you say?

Your analogy is great. I wish I would have said that.


***QUESTION

Dave,

First, I have purchased your "double your dating"
from your website. Your book and extra's have enriched
my life.

I had a beautiful woman sit down next to me on the
train on my ride into work. I could feel she was interested
but I was scared. I didn't want to make an obvious
come on with so many people around. So I did nothing
and missed an opportunity to meet an ultra beautiful
woman. How can I prevent this from happening in the
future? How can I discreetly approach a woman in this
situation? I'm not interested in becoming comic entertainment
for the morning rush crowd.

G

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Say what?

You didn't want to make an "obvious come on with other
people around"?

What, did you want to become her friend and shopping
buddy, then two years later spring an "I love you"
on her in the middle of the girdle aisle at Macy's?

Or did you miss the part where I said in Double Your
Dating not to hide the fact that you're interested?

You really need to get over this idea that making
it obvious that you're not just interested in "friendship"
isn't considered bad by women... and that if you try
to hide it, you're only shooting yourself in the foot.

And by the way, if you're "not in the mood" to make
a woman laugh in front of the morning crowd, then
what are you going to do... charm her with your boring,
un-funny creativity?

Think about what you're asking me.

You need to get over what other people think, and
get into making things happen regardless of who's
watching or listening.

This alone is a trait that creates ATTRACTION.

Of course, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be
"discreet" about it, you could hand her a note that
says "I was going to say some funny stuff, but I didn't
want anyone to think that I was picking up on you.
If you couldn't tell, I'm kind of a Wuss, but don't
let that stop you from calling me later."

In short, the way to prevent this in the future is
to BE READY for the situation. Plan out what you're
going to do NEXT TIME, and be totally ready when it
happens. If you mentally prepare for the 10 most common
situations that you find yourself in, you'll DRAMATICALLY
increase your success.


***QUESTION***

Hey dave I really enjoyed reading your e-book. It
taught me so much more than all your newsletters have.
To every one reading this right now buy the book it's
the best $40 I have ever spent I would even have paid
up to $200 for it im serious. I went to the beach the
next day after reading your book and used your techniques,
but I am kind of shy but I figured out how to have
women approach you... give up. Volley ball. It's so
awesome the chicks will just approach you and ask to
play, and you have an excuse not to wear a shirt show
off your body and not make it look like your showing off.
Me being only 5'2 with a muscular built. I will always
say "I'm prejudice of the fact that your taller than
me...but I can accept you for who you are" awesome line
for all you short guys. I do have a question though I
can't seem to figure out a cocky funny line if A girl
tell you that you have a big/nice muscles. Also I can't
come out with any thing to say while playing volley ball.
Most of what I say comes off as arrogant. For example
if she would miss I would say "what the hell was that"
yes I know smooth lines. I would appreciate your help
on this one I think other guys would to. I cant wait
until your next book and seminar tapes come out.

your friend
CL - maine


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, very nice. Great thinking.

And if a woman says "You have nice muscles", just
look back at her with a serious face and say:

"You know, I'm really tired of you women treating
me like some kind of piece of meat. I have feelings
too, and I don't just like being thought of as a sex
object."

I have a friend that uses this with amazing success.